Hi everyone

I'm in a new relationship at the moment with a guy that I love and we are going to have sex for the first time in this relationship. I cant believe we waited 4 months for this moment but we wanted to make sure that we didnt make it all about sex. Anyway as all of my previous sex relationships failed, how do you make sure your relationship doesnt become dependent on sex. So how often do you have it and how do you know when its right? Cause when he is just on top of me and we are "hot kissing" I want to do it but after our first there has to be a limit on how many times per month. Right?

Thanks for the advice.