Originally Posted by Saved-by-Grace

You don't have to take anything from your sister, you know.
Quietly shutting her out of your life is one option, but I don't recommend it.
Have you tried talking to her when nothing is an issue?
I mean like... go to her a while after she does something you don't like and kindly, nonjudgementally explain to her why you're upset?
If you try this while you're angry and while there's an issue, it will usually just turn into a verbal war.
Nothing is easy about going to her afterward either, but even if it's tough, it beats bitterness and resentment to a pulp.