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*Rocky* · 05-27-2008, 07:43 AM

Tips

Don't feel you'll always have to avoid swearing altogether (unless you want to); there are occasions in life when even the most mild-mannered person will let go of an expletive - for reasons such as pain, horror or loss. The idea is to stop using it as a major source of communicating your thoughts, behaviour and language.
Research has shown that 21 days can break a bad habit. Use this to set a goal for yourself - no swearing for a period of 21 days!
Learn more words if you need to. English and all other languages are full of amazing words that will help you truly express yourself and get your real meaning across to others. Subscribe to Internet sites that give you a 'word a day' or read dictionary lists that relate to emotional expression and feelings.
If you use swearing as a source of attention, ask yourself what is lacking in your life and try to work on improving that aspect of yourself. If you feel easily confronted by other people, seek out groups that teach you about improving self-confidence, assertiveness training and learning to feel at ease in social situations (including crowds). If you prefer one-to-one, ask your doctor or find a psychologist to assist you.
If you want to swear because something has upset you, count to 10 and take really deep breaths. In the time you do this, the moment will pass.
Exercise off your anger and frustration. This avoids the need to speak, let alone swear and will keep you in good condition, respecting and caring for yourself.
You may think that the words only mean what you intend them to mean, however, it is what the listener interprets them to mean that is relevant in any social context. Some words have different shades of meaning in different contexts. Some words may be inappropriate for a particular audience. Some listeners may consider your use of strong adjectives or adverbs as 'cursing'. It is usually better to err on the side of respect and courtesy toward everyone that is listening.
Don't think you're cool when you swear. You're not. But don't think you're not cool when you don't swear.
Don't give up on not swearing if a swear word "slips out." Things happens.
It'll take some time but eventually you'll stop swearing; it takes patience. See if family or friends can help you by giving a lot of support to you for not cursing.

Warnings

Swearing can engender disrespect, hatred and violence. Stopping it will improve your relations with other people but continuing to communicate through swearing will dull your experience of life and potentially leads to misunderstandings that can end up in bad situations.
Swearing at work will get you fired unless your boss really, really liked that racist joke you just made.
Seek anger management through professionals if your swearing usually comes about because of anger, frustration or irrational thoughts; otherwise you may end up hurting yourself or others and you won't live the full life you deserve to.
Don't use swearing as a weapon - it only makes you look disobedient, ignorant, angry, rude, impatient, ill-tempered and difficult. This is especially important around authority figures like teachers, police, judges, bosses. Swearing gets you nowhere; manners open all doors.
Intense and relentless swearing is verbal abuse and in some jurisdictions can have you ending up in court for a fine or maybe even imprisonment.
If you have children, you must teach them that there are times when using swearing is inappropriate. If they are too young to understand 'inappropriate', then perhaps not swearing is the best way to prevent them from picking up your language and using it.
If someone annoys you and you tell them to "truck off" then people will probably laugh at you. Try to ignore them.

Things You'll Need

Patience
Sense of realism about your goal - it takes time to change
A swear jar for charity
Friends and family who are supportive
Journal for thoughts, goals and self-promises

source:
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Swearing