Me and this girl have labeled each other as bffs for quite some time now (it started around early last year), and we have always talked and hung out and stuff. Just casual friendly fun.

Recently, she got a boyfriend. I was never really fond of this kid because hes just..... a creeper.

But im getting ahead of myself. Nowadays instead of talking to her friends and having fun and stuff her time is eaten up by this guy. He is taking her away from all of us (not just me, all of our other friends) and now she doesnt talk to any of us that much. She has even called me by his name by accident. She ignores everyone but him at lunch.

Now on to the way he acts. Starting two years ago, hes been stalking her and shes never cared for him at all. He pulled the guilt trip recently and now they are together. Like I said, he is always demanding her attention and instead of coming off as a calm figure, he is always looming over her shoulder when any of her friends are around, like hes trying to be intimidating. There has been times where during school they didnt meet inbetween classes, and he had called her to make sure she was still in school. Also, (me and her are in the schools band, thats necessary to know for the next part) one night we had a concert, (she plays flute and i the drums) and when she went into one of the back rooms to tune her instrument, he was frantically walking in and out of the band room, probably some number like 18 times, looking for her. Finally our band director kicked him out of the room.

Also (this one was the biggie), look at this convo me and one of my friends had about him. The girl in question has a facebook, as does everyone else under the sun these days. Well, she jokingly wrote on one of her friends walls something like "hey (name), how are you, i love you!" (the "i love you" is obviously a casual friend joke), and he responds back "haha i love you too! ive been good etc etc". Look what happened. The convo is between me and a mutal friend of the girl and her boyfriend.

1:26:59) ***********: about (boyfriend)
(01:27:07) *******************: he just started talking to me on that facebook chat thing
(01:27:15) Me: and...?
(01:27:54) ***************:

(boyfriend):
hey (girl im having AIM convowith)! 6:52pm

(aim convo girl)
hi 6:52pm

(bf)
hey
do you know ********? 6:53pm

(aim girl)
no
what about him? 6:53pm

(bf)
okay then
wait
you say no and then what about him?
what aren
t
you telling me?




The girl showed me this and I became uneasy. She said that he was interrogating her about this other guy that he thought his gf was seeing.



I really don't know what to do. Noone else in our group likes him, and I really wanna speak up about it before it gets even more out of hand then it already has.

Im afraid that if i do speak up, ill lose my best friend and everything will be crap. If not....Im still afraid im gonna lose her to this creep.