I wouldn't recommend living with either. They both have unsafe habits that could leave you and your brother in danger. Your mother is abusive, even if you don't want to accept that. You don't need to be around someone who takes anger or stress out on you or your brother. Your dad doesn't seem like a safe parent either, considering his drinking problem. You shouldn't be around someone who spends most of his time drunk. Driving with him isn't even safe if he is a constant speeder. The best advice I can give is to go live with a grandparent, aunt, or an uncle. It'll be better to get out of both situations as soon as possible.