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Jizela Luveu · 06-17-2008, 09:51 PM

FACT: If people are speaking to you behind another persons back, it is likely that they are also speaking behind your back to other people. From what you have posted its obvious that both Josh and Kate are trying to avoid confrontation after being caught out for backstabbing, by 'tattling' on the other friend. It is both non-effective and almost extremely immature. You are at the friendship fork. A point where a relationship is either made stronger, or completely broken. It's extremely hard and sometimes unrealistic to expect a group of friends to sit down and solve all there problems. The truth about humans is that they will attempt anything to hide away there feelings, emotions and problems because confrontation, because once you say something aloud it becomes reality. The one thing people will do anything to avoid. It is the place where all there dreams, goals, aspirations and fantasies simply turn to mist and for some people its like standing at the end of a dark tunnel in the freezing cold, alone, coming face to face with the issues they've been hiding away. The point is the fact that humans will do anything 2 avoid reality, and the key to that door is confrontation. Hence, the reason why your friends are blaming the other. Truth is, they are both probably talking behind your back. As I mentioned before, you are at a friendship fork, the point of make or break. As hard as it sounds, you either have to sit your friends down and sort out your problems, find out what it is they are saying behind your back and deal with the issue. If that is not effective and you find that they are still talking behind yours or each others back then you yourself are going to be at the end of the tunnel. You must contemplate the pro's and con's of your friendship and decide whether its really worth it. The harsh reality is, friendships end. As hard as it sounds to move on and find new friends, it is much more painful to be in a situation where your constantly worried that one of your friends are speaking behind your back and questioning your trust. A friend is someone whose trust you never have to question. Eventually things fall apart, people change, friendships end. I know you are trying to be the glue in the relationship, but there is so much a person can take before you simply dry up and give up.

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