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What should I do? Help please....

So, I was dating this guy named Blake for about 8 months, but I ended up moving away because my mother was abusive. I came to live in Hawaii with my dad and my grandmother, but then my dad died. Now I'm moving back at the end of this month.

Blake stuck through all of this with me, and we continued to have a long distance relationship while I was away. We are both really close, and he's the only guy that I felt I could be with for a really long time. I care a LOT about him, and I really love him, and I know he must have felt the same way too, if he was willing to go through everything, and wait for me to come back.

However, we did have some problems. I wasn't very truthful about my past when we first started dating, so I began opening up more when I was gone. This caused him to have a trust issue, which I understood. But about a year and a half into our relationship, he started becoming really good friends with this girl named Becky. He was at her house almost everyday, and when we talked on the phone everyday he would talk about her a lot. I was fine with it at first, because he had just recently started hanging out with more friends, and he seemed really happy. But then I started finding out that he was telling her that he "loved her". And I knew it was only in a friend way, but when I asked him to stop, he got mad and started defending her. I let it go, but after a while, them always being together really got to me, since I never got to see him, and he started not calling me because he'd be out somewhere with her. Although, it was never really just with her, he'd always have some guy friends there too.

Finally, I ended up breaking up with him, when I started realizing how he was slowly putting less into our relationship, and because I didn't like the jealous person that I was becoming. About a week later, I find out that he liked Becky, when all along he was telling me that he would never date her, because of whatever reason. So we stopped talking for about a month. We were supposed to talk once a week, because that was what we agreed to, but I just stopped calling, because I didn't want to call if he didn't want to talk to me, and I figured if he did, then he would call. Finally, he ended up calling me, and he said that he wanted to talk to me more, and that he called because he thought I was giving up on him (and that he didn't want me to), and that he has every intention of being with me when I get back, and that he thinks that there's no one else like me, and that he misses me. But now I'm confused, because he keeps sending mixed signals. I'll be coming back at the end of this month, but I'm not sure how to act. I don't know how he feels about anything really, because he doesn't really talk about how he feels. And normally I'd just drop him and go like I did with all my other relationships, but this is honestly the first guy I've ever put my all into the relationship with, and I really think that we could be together for a while, because we get a long really well when we were not having trust issues.

I guess I just don't know how to go about to make things better before or once I get back. Any advice towards the situation or what I should do? I'd really appreciate it.
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