I'm sure everyone loves their best friend. . .Only the way i love him is more than friends. I am 14 and a chick, my best friend Benn is 18 and a guy. About a week and a half ago we got drunk at a party i have a fetish with his hips because they stick out alot so i was touching his hips all night. he has no problem with it and likes me doing it. So anyways that was happening most of the night and then we went to go to sleep and of course being best friends we were sleeping right next to each other. So i was really cold and he was holding onto me to keep me warm and such and i was touching his hips and then next thing i know he kissed me. We were like that for what seemed like ages and then we fell asleep with his arms around me.
We've drunkenly hooked up the first time we met when we were drunk at a party but it wasn't like this
I think I'm in love with him. I don't know how to tell him. An whats worse is that him and my two other best friends are moving away next year to Uni so i don't know what I'll do without them. I've recently been diagnosed with depression and Benn is one of the only people who makes me happy. How do i tell him i love him more than a friend.

Firstly, any 18 year old that is interested in a 14 year old should be one that you avoid. A self-respecting legal adult would not do these things with a child. If he were 28 and you 24, this would be an entirely different situation. Age gaps aren't as huge when you are older, but through the teen years you grow up so fast and learn so much. At fourteen you are still so much more immature than he is. He should know this and have responsibly chosen not to get involved with you. He should have known, but he didn't.

Yes.. at 14 you can love people. I'm not saying you can't love. But I am saying your *reasoning* for loving him may be skewed. Soon enough the age gap will matter. Perhaps when he goes off to college and wants to enjoy sex with college girls instead of jsut a child in highschool.. or when he sees that you love him so much more than he loves you.. he might actually feel sorry for you and end it.

Secondly, by getting drunk you are leaving yourself unable to think clearly. You do things that you might not otherwise have done. Sex isn't something to joke about. IT isn't "just" sex. Sex is a very intimate action that will create feelings even if they weren't ment to be there. You think you love him now, but would it have been different if you'd never done anything phsyical with him? Probably so. I loved my current boyfriend for over a year before I even ever kissed him. Those feelings never changed in all that 13 months before we added phsyical intimacy to our relationship. Could you be so sure without those sexual actions?

18 and 14 is a little bit of a stretch, but it does seem that he is interested in you. Though if you date him and it doesnt work out, you might lose a best friend

O My Gawd!!! Drunk At 14?! What's Wrong With You?!?!

I'm not crazy about the thought either.. but could we treat her with a little more respect? I know it seems unthinkable to us, but "shouting" what is wrong with you isn't going to help her.

.........true very sorry.....shock got the better of me. Congrats on ur 3 year engagment btw.

The innocence

..Er.....You know most kids her age get hammered and stoned regularly?!

Make sure you're emotionally ready..

I personally don't think you are.

Hey I'M 14 and you don't see ME doing that do you??? You just see me getting stalked by my best friend's boyfriend.

No offence, but you sound very immature.. I think that's why.

BURN!!!!!!!!!!!!

+rep for U!

rofl.. well tap that shitz... just kidding.. try it what ever happends happends..

any update?