Too " Touchy Feely "?

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 03:14 AM

Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for a month now, and we've had this problem a few times where he thinks im too close with other people. We had this one guy [ who ive stopped talking to now for my own reasons] who lives in our street and me and him got on really well at the time, and we'd hug , and id slap him polayfully everytime he spat and we had nicknames for eachother, and my boyfriend gets really uncomftorble me being like that with people, problem is thats me , and thats what im generally like with people i get on with, i do it without realising, [ sending out the wrong signals] .... What do i do ?

Its not i dont have self control, i just feel happy like that, but i dont want my boyfriend feeling unhappy....

x

tessa_s212 · 10-18-2007, 03:17 AM

Make a compromise?

I personally might consider some of what you do flirting.. and maybe he does too and that is his readon for not being happy with yoru actions?

I personally save everything for my boyfriend. I don't flirt with other guys, I don't touch them, etc. There are girls in my class that feel comfortable playing with other guy's hair, etc.. but I personally feel that is just one more sign of affection I can save for my boyfriend. Him and only him.

I believe it is just a matter of who you want to show that kind of attention to. Are you committed to just that one person.. or do you want to continue flirting and showing affection to other guys?

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 03:18 AM

Im very commited to my boyfriend
But im very commitied to my friends too
Even though its a different commitment
I like being cuddled by different people
I like knowing i can have closeness with people like that
Its not that i want to send them theese signals
But i just do apparently
x

Kat · 10-18-2007, 03:21 AM

skinny kitty i agree!
Its only natural to show affection to friends!
I love everyone thats apart of my life and each love is uniquely different between each one of those people. But either way i love them all and love to show them affection.

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 03:23 AM

Its good to know someone understands.
Its just natural for me , even if i dont love them , as a mate yet or anything, i like to show people im there for them and that i care, ive hugged nearly everyone in my college ... and we all get on great, we just get on really well like a big family , and my mates who i hug loads, i just love them, even though i love my fella in a different way..

x

IamRealBored · 10-18-2007, 03:25 AM

if he really likes you, he would be able to trust you and not think about your friends that way. just my 2cents.

Kat · 10-18-2007, 03:28 AM

It may be just jealousy though.
Exactly, its two completely different types of love, but both are needed in life

IamRealBored · 10-18-2007, 03:30 AM

well yeah, but whats to be jealous about? she has fun with her friends... but still likes her bf and shit...

tessa_s212 · 10-18-2007, 03:34 AM

I wouldn't blame it all on either one of them. It isn't his fault, and it isn't her fault. If my boyfriend was that way with other girls, though I love him I know I'd feel jealous. And if that was how he naturally was, I couldn't fairly blame him either..because that is who he is.

Really, it is a combination of them not being all taht compatible together. She's a touchy feely kind of person and the kind of person she should be lookign to be in a relationship with should be okay with that in order for them to last.

Have you considered that just maybe your current boyfriend and you just aren't that compatible?

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 03:40 AM

We are very compatible , its just this one thing that we slip up with , and we dont even slip up with it, we dont have arguments or anything, i just want to be able to find a way to explain it to him or help calm down a bit
xx

Phuck Buddy · 10-18-2007, 03:46 AM

if your intentions with people is not sexual or to replace your bf, etc. than you should explain that to him. If he's not able to accep that, you'll either have to adapt to make him happy or break up with him.

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 03:48 AM

Im just trying to find the write words to say.

x

assassinROW · 10-18-2007, 04:09 AM

well, personally i know how your boy friend feels. It can get akword if you are doing it infront of him, and he sees it as loving you.. and would never touch another girl in feer of making you jelous. Now you may not get jelous over this, but he will try to think of any way that would and stay away from it. And telling him he can do the same thing isnt the right thing to do. That just makes him more upset.

Try talking about it, and maybe cut down on "cuddaling" with othjer guys. Would you want some girl "cuddaling" with him? He desont know if your friend likes you or not, and thats another big problem.

SKinnyKitty · 10-18-2007, 04:12 AM

I can understand where your coming from, especially with one of my mates thinking of it like that, i might just cut down with the i love yous to them and cuddles to them....

x

Zanabel · 10-18-2007, 04:51 AM

You could tell him

"When i hug other people or laugh with them i mean it in a friendly way. But you know i love you and your the only one i do this too." and then kiss him lol. that'd be cute.