Some people say that it is important to fight with your significant other while in a relationship because it shows how strong the couple is by seeing how they make things better and what not.

But I was talking to this guy in one of my classes and him and his gilfriend have been together for over a year, and they fight constantly, as in it's an everyday occurance. When I mentioned that my boyfriend and I have also been together for over a year and have never faught he seemed completely shocked, and looked at me with big eyes and an open mouth, I think it's because he is used to fighting everyday.

So of course those two relationships are the complete extremes of each other as in one fights everyday and we have never faught. But do you think fighting and then making up is important in a relationship?

I think it helps that Jayson and I aren't jealous people and that we are a lot alike that we don't have anything to fight about. As for the other couple I mentioned the guy is a very jealous person and a dickhead, so I'm really not surprised.

Anyways, what do you think?

I think you may live in an area of high retardation rates.

"No fights? OMGWTF! I DUN KNO!"

I think it is important to go through your differences and learn to compromise and work through arguments and such, but I do not see it as a nessary thing to fight, yell, insult, etc.

In all the time that I've known my boyfriend(very close friends for a year before we finally started dating), we've NEVER yelled at each other, called each other a name, insulted each other, or stayed mad long. We've been frustrated with each other, but always we feel bad about even feeling frustrated or angered with each other and want to make up immediately, compromise so that that argument will not happen again. I absolutely hate feeling frustrated with him and the minute I do I feel bad.

you were broken up for a while? or did you mean from before?

According to psychology, fighting, arguing, etc is part of a normal relationship. They see it as if you never fight, argue, etc, than its because the person is not worth it enough to get into it with.

It is very important to argue, specifically if you like angry sex

I think fighting/arguing is an important part of a relationship... If you don't fight occasionally it's eventually going to get to the point where you loose it with you s/o. Fighting is a form of communication... which is obviously important.

It happens. It shows that you're not dating your clone, and have different views on something happening. Every once in a while, it's ok. Every day, though, something is wrong.

We were close friends long before we started dating, but in that time we were close friends, there was a few long months that we did not speak to each other at all. We started talking again and not long after decided to take our relationship past being "just" friends.

Ah, you missed my point, I believe. Its not that we never argue. I simply said taht we just never yell at each other or insult one another. Well, perhaps without direct insult we've stated some undesireable things about one another, but never out of pure malice and anger. We do get frustrated and angry with one another, we have argued, but one thing we do NOT do is yell at each other or insult.

I agree that arguments, disagreeing and frustrations with one another IS a normal part of a relationship, however, that does NOT mean yelling and insulting is. I personally respect and love my boyfriend enough to never want to tear him down, as does he to me.

I dont think its too healthy to be fighting constantly even though i know i do it everyday. I know how my relationship is going right now its not healthy me and my bf fight everyday atleast once a day we call each other names we insult each other. I know i have a lot of anger towards him that i keep in and we have our good days when we dont fight at all which are rare but i still really love the guy and he loves me we respect each others feelings and we always know how to make each other feel better i have been with him four years and i know this is just the start the good thing about being able to fight is that you know you both love each other so much your willing to forgive and move on even if it is a dumb little fight. Everyone is different and i could never live through my relationship w/out any fighting. it is what keeps our passion and love going and growing!!!

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