right how do i start....
im 17 and my boyfriend is 18 [only 10mnths older than me] and we have been together for nearly 9 months now and im really happy with him and i love him so much but .... i havent got a life =(

i have always been comfortable with lads has my mates because they dont let me down, but a few months ago my boyfriend started gettin really upset about all my mates being guys and my talkin to them [he had problems with his ex] and i understood how he felt because iv been hurt 20 times before in less than a year by lads [ye i kno!] so i deleted my guy contacts and whenever they tried talkin to me i wouldnt because my boyfriend got really upset about it when i did and we ended up arguin, but the thing is he has tons of girl mates n i always get really depressed about it and he knows this and even tho he doesnt talk to them [he says he doesnt] he wont delete them for me....and i dont know why. He says he loves me and i believe him [we supposed to be gettin married after im 18] we have even planned out lives together =) and its great but im gettin more and more depressed each day because i havent got any mates anymore and all i ever see is my boyfriend and one of his mates rick......

please help me and i dont know what to do because i dont want to leave him ='(

can anyone please give me some advice on how to handle this?

luff leoshine17

This whole thing is screwed up.

You need trust in a relationship.

If you want this to be a long lasting relationship, you both have to let each other have friends and trust the other to not cheat. Otherwise, you're just peeking over each other's shoulders nonstop wondering if they're cheating on you.

ya..if you guys can't trust each other it won't work out.

yer i kno but i do trust him i honestly do its just other girls around him i dont trust coz everyother time iv had a bf if they have had girl mates or met a girl they have dumped me for them or cheated on me. he says he trusts me n i believe him and i understand how he feels and he is sayin lately that i can have my mates bk but the thing is, i kno he is only sayin that because i cnt get thru to them and they live too far away for me to go n see them plus i know it will upset him anyways.

It's still idiotic. You're destroying each other's social lives.

What happens when one of you gets a job? Will one of you explode at the thought the other could be cheating at work?

evryone needs a social life, explain to him thatyou know h'es had problems before but your not those people and you need friends in your life too aswell as him, if he can't accept that or gets upset by it then he's not ready for a relationship let alone a marriage!

Wtf, hows both your educational life?

-FF

I completely agree with everyone else. Boyfriends are supposed to be a great addition to the life you already have. But when you give up everything for your boyfriend, suddenly every move he makes is life changing bcuz ...he is your life. Get your friends back and quick. While your at it, start a hobby as well. If this guy isn't happy with your life the way it is, why do you want him in it?

what you are all sayin makes sense but i feel like i cant lose him because i love him so much! iv loved him eversince we have been mates and everytime i nearly break up with him coz we have had a big argument or summit i cnt do it bcoz i get so upset n it break my heart n i cnt hurt him like that either, thats how we have managed to stay together for so long. our educational life is ok because we both go to different colleges but our colleges are literally 2 streets apart lol and everytime we have a few hours free or even just half an hour we meet up coz he dunt want me chattin to lads n i feel like i aint got anything else to do coz he makes me promise him that i wont talk to any boys.

sounds liek he's definately got a trust issue with him, lay out the law to him don't let him tell you what to do, tell him if i want lad mates ill have lad mates, i know you don't want to lose him but this guy sounds like he can get very jealous easily when theres nothing to be jealous about