Hi guys, the reason I'm here is because I needed to find a forum to talk to and get some advice from, because there's no one I know personally that can give me an unbiased opinion.

Here's the deal:
I dated a girl for around 2 years. Yes, 2 years straight. From the time we were in middle school to about the beginning of our Junior year. She was my first love/kiss/etc... basically she was my first everything. We gave eachother our virginity, and so on and so on. However, towards the end of our relationship things started to get a bit rocky because we both just lost perspective on everything, and we took a break. During the break she made out with another boy, and I found out, got mad at her and we got in a big fight. I told her not to talk to me anymore, and we went for 5 months without saying a word to eachother.

Now. During this schism we had, she found another boyfriend and I found another girlfriend. We never talked to eachother about it, we just found out from word of mouth. Eventually I got to the point where I convinced myself I was completely over my ex, and that I was 100% moved on. Things with my new girlfriend were going great, albeit really fast, and by 2 months we were already in love.

Enter the conflict. Not too long ago, my ex-girlfriend finally confonted me and apologized for everything. Because the issue was so far in the past and because I had a new girlfriend, I forgave her completely and we decided to just be friends. Now, when we started talking once again and seeing eachother more often, old wounds started to open up. I found that I still had feelings for her, feelings that were unresolved due to the 5 month anger-break we had. I felt ashamed and sick because I had a new and wonderful girlfriend, yet I found myself still having feelings for my ex and I found that these feelings hold me back from truly comitting to my new girlfriend.

Not too long ago, my girlfriend told me that she was starting to be bothered by how much I was talking to me Ex, so after a discussion I told her that I still had feelings for my ex. This led to a really emotional discussion, and after a lot of pain my girlfriend decided to stay with me and work things out. Since then, my ex has broken up with her boyfriend. However, while she was single she did some things that really bother me... as in she got drunk at a party and had sex with a guy that she wasn't dating. I talked to her about it and she busted out crying, saying it was a mistake and so on and so forth. She said that she really wants me back and we both had a confession about how we really feel. I said a lot of things that no guy with a girlfriend should say to another girl, and I feel ashamed. I still feel the feelings for my ex, and it worries me.

I wish I was over my ex so that I could give the love my girlfriend gives to me back to her, but having my ex on the back of my mind just holds me back. This new girlfriend I have gives me a wonderful sense of security, and I feel like I would be trading in a sure-thing for a chance if I was to break up with her and go back to my ex.

HOWEVER, setting aside even thinking about getting back with my ex, I feel like I still have no right to be with my girlfriend. She doesn't know that I've told my ex that I still love her and that I still think about her all the time. My girlfriend has been nothing short of amazing to me and I hate to think that I would mess something so amazing up, and I can't even help it.

What do you guys think? Am I being stupid or what? Sorry it's so long, it's so complicated...

I don't think there's anything you can really do that would solve the problem completely. You're not being stupid...but taking so much intrest in your ex (like when she got drunk and had sex) won't help.

I guess if your ex finds someone else it could be easier to commit to your new gf...but when she's not it'll be tough because of the chance you've got with your ex.

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What do you mean by taking interest? Like, I shouldn't be so interested in her?

I can't help that...

Well if you can't maybe you shouldn't be with your current gf? As you're still getting over your ex...
I dunno what advice i can give you'll just have to wait for it all to work out there's no solution really.

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I suggest you get over your ex homie, they're ex's for a reason, and thats the way it should stay. You got a girl now that cares for you a loves you. and you should really take that to mind first. Your ex may come back and start talking to you, but don't let it get to you. She may want you back, but it's because she sees you with another girl that you're happy with. So, keep what you got, don't let the past sneek up and bite you in the ass.

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I think you should stay with your girlfriend, shes probobly going through a lot think of how you would feel if she still had feelings for her ex. What it comes down to is who you like more though but if you do decide to go with your ex you may regret losing your current girlfriend. And now that your ex doesnt have anybody might be the reason why she wants to get back with you. Plus alot of people want what they cant get what would you rather winning another girl who it has already not worked with or losing someone who could work with. Its a hard decision but you have to decide.

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