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09-14-2012, 02:15 AM
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Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Help please...wat to do? Well, I'm 17 and have never had a girlfriend and suffer from anxiety problems. I've had a massive crush of over 2 years on this one girl whos in the same class as me and who I think is the most amazing girl. Well long story short I told her how I felt and she rejected me which made me feel depressed. I thought I had gotten over her when I was talking to another girl and I said this to my friend (who is gay) who told the one I have a crush on about me liking this other girl who I later found out had a boyfriend. She then messaged me on facebook saying its Ok cause things wouldn't be so awkward in school. Well, I made a mistake, I realised the other day that my feelings are as strong as ever for this girl.
What should I do? |
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09-14-2012, 12:29 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 94
Money: 552 Last Online: 11-06-2012 11:37 AM | Re: Help please...wat to do? well come, what can i help you? |
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09-15-2012, 03:14 AM
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#3 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? I forgot to say, me and her are in the same year at our school and I see her quite often throughout the day. I just get really shy around girls usually (probably why I've never had a girlfriend). I still like her as much as ever |
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09-15-2012, 07:00 AM
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Name: Nick Gender: Male Join Date: May 2011 Location: USA Posts: 161
Money: 2,673 Last Online: 02-09-2013 07:28 AM | Re: Help please...wat to do? I think what you should do FIRST before you try to make progress with this girl is to focus on your relationship between you and yourself.
Learn to love yourself. When your thinking, you know how you have 2 voices in your head? The way those two voices interact can act as a gauge to how your relationship between you and yourself is doing. Does one talk to the other like a parent or do they work together and support each other?
BASICALLY, what this will do is make you more loving to others because you love yourself. It'll also make you more confident.
At this point, focus on this girl. You now will have anything you need to talk to her and create a relationship, not with just her, but any person. |
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09-15-2012, 06:19 PM
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Name: Kyndra;) Gender: Female Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 445
Money: 5,502 Last Online: 03-16-2013 08:14 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? Oh so happened to me? |
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09-16-2012, 12:26 AM
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#6 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Well that was awkward Well me and my friend were walking home from school yesterday and we were talking about me liking this girl (he's the only one I can properly talk to about stuff like this). Anyway, we turned round and there she was right behind us., and I don't know if she heard us or not and she didn't say anything but asked me about something else |
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09-16-2012, 12:37 AM
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#7 | | Member
Name: Kyndra;) Gender: Female Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 445
Money: 5,502 Last Online: 03-16-2013 08:14 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? So am I the third wheel? |
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09-16-2012, 10:06 PM
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#8 | | Junior Member
Name: Nick Gender: Male Join Date: May 2011 Location: USA Posts: 161
Money: 2,673 Last Online: 02-09-2013 07:28 AM | Re: Help please...wat to do? Quote:
Originally Posted by Sweetie123 So am I the third wheel? | What are you talking about??
Bugger off. |
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09-16-2012, 10:31 PM
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#9 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? Quote:
Originally Posted by Sweetie123 So am I the third wheel? | no, no you're not |
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09-17-2012, 02:30 PM
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#10 | | Junior Member
Name: Nick Gender: Male Join Date: May 2011 Location: USA Posts: 161
Money: 2,673 Last Online: 02-09-2013 07:28 AM | Re: Help please...wat to do? Ohhh Sam are you getting it on with Sweetie? |
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09-17-2012, 06:30 PM
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#11 | | New Member
Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 23
Money: 776 Last Online: 11-26-2012 12:03 AM | Re: Help please...wat to do? You wont get a girl to like you unless you try. Trust me, i spent years of my life waiting for a girlfriend, then realised i should grow up and go find one and it worked.
Just tell her how you feel. If she says no, then leave it. Plenty more out there and all that. |
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09-17-2012, 06:32 PM
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#12 | | Junior Member
Name: Kimmy :3 Gender: Female Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Some world. Posts: 185
Money: 1,560 Last Online: 09-21-2012 02:25 PM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? Quote:
Originally Posted by dev532 You wont get a girl to like you unless you try. Trust me, i spent years of my life waiting for a girlfriend, then realised i should grow up and go find one and it worked.
Just tell her how you feel. If she says no, then leave it. Plenty more out there and all that. | Theres plenty more fish in the sea.
__________________ I've been on that path too. You're not alone. I'm here. I'm gunna support you. Trust me. |
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09-17-2012, 11:30 PM
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#13 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? Quote:
Originally Posted by Nick* Ohhh Sam are you getting it on with Sweetie? | Nope
And I did tell this girl before but not properly (I could have done it a lot better and at a better time than I did 
I still like her as much as ever and I just keep finding myself thinking about her. She's such a nice person its unreal, I haven't managed to keep her off my mind for long for ages.
I don't know if I'm in love with her but, I mean I've felt the same way about her for at least the past 3 years but was never able to do anything about due to confidence issues (I never told her properly either) :/ I just like sooo many things about her. What do you think about that (do you think I might be in love with her) any ideas?
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10-02-2012, 01:36 AM
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#14 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? I was talking to her again today and ended up having a decent conversation. It turns out we're more alike than I thought and we both have the same sort of confidence problems which is something I didn't think she had to be honest. |
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10-27-2012, 04:02 AM
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#15 | | New Member
Name: Sam Gender: Male Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Holyhead, North Wales, UK Posts: 63
Money: 1,255 Last Online: 05-11-2013 07:03 AM My Mood: | Re: Help please...wat to do? BUMP!  Well my friend and her friend have come up with a plan to help me because I can't actually talk to her in school, I just get so shy but I'm a lot better outside. They're plan is to use mutual friends going to the cinema so her friend and her would go and me and my friend would "coincidentally" be there. I think this could work because I think it'll help me get to talk to her  Any thoughts guys? |
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