I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend who is 20 for 1 month...last week i lost my virginity to him and am now starting to regret it..
i have realised how much a big deal it is and i don't know if he appreciates it..i wish i'd told him at the time i hadn't had sex before but we got carried away..it felt right at the time
it really hurt and now i wish i'd waited longer..
he is a nice guy and has been really romantic etc..I have known him for over a year and we share some of the same friends and have heard through them how nice he is and respectable towards women..
he asked me afterwards whether it was my first time and that i should have told him..
however last night i went to his friends house with him and through some of their private jokes. i suspected he'd told them about our first time and am now starting to feel abit used..
how should i approach this and do you think i should confront him??

From what you've said it sounds like he respects you, so that is good. If you really want to confront him about it maybe just tell him that it was your first time and you aren't quite comfortable with it yet? If he really respects you he would understand.
Ha, sorry if I'm not much help. I have 0 experience in these kinds of situations.

thankyou very much! i hope your right..
i dont feel comfortable talking to him about it though..
and i dont want him to get bored#
:S

You're welcome. I hope things work out for you two. =]

Edit: Sorry, I was really rushed when I first posted this. If he really cares about you he won't get bored waiting for you. And like nicole said, if you aren't comfortable talking about it, then you shouldn't be doing it until you are.

well if you don't feel comfortable talking about it to him you shouldn't have gone down that path...

it might seem like a big thing at the moment and you might always regret losing it like that but in a few years it'll seem like a distant memory and you won't be botherd by it. However if you feel a bit arquard qith him telling his friends and stuff you really should let him know that you want to keep it between you both...just for now at least anyway

If he was telling private jokes about you then he just used you like a garden tool.

well...to start with you should have been honest with him. Sex shouldnt involve lies. If you dont feel comfortable talking about sex...you're not ready for sex. But my advice...is to tell him how you feel...if he respects you the way you think he does...he should be fine with takin it slow for a while. If not...he's not worth your time. Good luck. =]

when you had sex, you should have told him beforehand, but ah well its in the past now.
i suggest you both sit down and have a chat about where this is going, and tell him your feelings were seriously hurt when he told all his friends!

he sounds like a nice guy but, with a age difference, theres bound to be a gap between you.

I'm not sure if your in the US.

but from my viewpoint, and experience in knowing people my age.

If your 16, and there is a 20 year old chasing you, not only is it illegal, and means prison time for him,

but also, any guy out of highschool trying to date women in highschool has to be lame, if a 20 year old can't find a girl his age, then something isn't exactly right.

no offense to your choice and all, but I think your better off keeping to your age.

anyway, he sounds like hes fucking immature, I dont know many guys that brag to people about a private sexual relationship when they feel like they really love the person.

I have friends that talk about sex all the time, but its not with people they actually love, just people they fuck.

the guys that love their girlfriend and have a sex life with them usually keep it to themselves because its somewhat special to them and the girl.

but hey, maybe I'm wrong?

You're dead on man.