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I have always fancied one guy, everything about him. It didnt work out before for several reasons, mainly because i couldnt trust him (long story). The thing is i dont know whether to date him again or not, im afraid of getting hurt more than anything. Not only that hes quite pushy. Hes into playing around sexually (not having sex) but turning me on etc etc. But i dont feel ready for it. I kinda get embarrased over it too, i think thats why. I dont mind it sometimes, but whenever we're together hes just that eager to be so pushy.
Is he worth going out with if he isnt going to accept that, do you think?
I dont know if i want it or not to be honest.
whenever im around him i feel natural being close to him, he is my type.
However i dont feel right being pushed about, he cannot accept im not ready for that sort of thing, the last time we had a relationship he kinda tried his best to push himself on me on his bed, woudnt take no for an answer.
So you guys dont think hes worth it then?
Im beginning to think the same myself to be honest, its no fun been forced intothings.
If he likes you and truly respects you, then he'll give you room. But I would also think about his needs as well as how long hes willing to wait. If thats something he wants in a relationship then its only natural for him to be pushy about it, he just can't force you to do anything you don't want to.
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But this isnt about me thinking about his needs.
Only an idiotic guy would wanna rush into sex because he barely knows me. I instantly fancied him, but i dont feel ive known him long enough to rush into sex. He should respect that. I tell him clearly i dont want anything pushy over sex, but he still continues, he should have respect, should he not?
well like most other decent females, they will not want to be rushed into something they dont feel comfortable about.
Its a tough situation. If you think you can trust him again and really like him then i'd give it another shot, but i'd talk to him and make it clear you weren't ready to be rushed into anything sexually. He has to respect that (if he doesn't then he's not worth it in my book) and wait until your ready. If he persists in being pushy then tell him its not working and break it off.
Hope it works out for ya : )
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I think you are right though.
He may love me and feel it is natural to do all that, but one person isnt ready he shouldnt push it on me.
So really, he isnt worth it.
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