im in love with my boyfriend but im pretty sure he's gay...help='(

lovergirl · 01-05-2008, 03:20 PM

help please!

okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and he lives with me and my parents. we're really close and i love him to death, but i came across a letter that one of his old friends wrote to him and this friend is out of the closet gay. in the letter he said that he loved and missed my boyfriend and even went as far to say that he missed having sex with him and he was sad because my boyfriend never talks to him anymore.
this was such a shock to me because i thought i knew my boyfriend very well and he has always come off as a gay basher.
well i confronted my boyfriend because i was extremely upset and he denied denied denied. he claims that the guy who wrote that was just obsessed with him and making up bullshit. i know that it seems like an obvious lie but i really want to believe that my boyfriend is straight because i fuckin love my boy=/
but now after reading that letter i start to notice how my boyfriend likes spending time with my brother a lot more than me and he never really seems to want to have sex or do anything with me really.
i really need your guys advice, i dunno what to do...

Alex_Rosque · 01-05-2008, 04:23 PM

Well if the letter is true hes probably bisexual. Otherwise why would he be with you? You need to get it out of him.

WorldChamp · 01-05-2008, 05:52 PM

It's a common reaction for gay people to appear as gay bashers because they're not comfortable with their sexuality.

For me, the letter doesn't sound made-up, but I don't know your boyfriend. Like Alex said, if there is something there, you need to get it out of him.

Kat · 01-05-2008, 06:26 PM

Thats a sticky situation.
I dont wanna sound horrible but he may not admit to it, if it is true.
Why cant he confront the guy that wrote it?

nathan · 01-05-2008, 07:40 PM

maybe ur boyfriend is telling the truth or maybe he was drunk and they had somethink goign for a moment do u no this mate of his if no trust your boyfriend or ring this fella up

FairytalePrincess · 01-05-2008, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by kat1990

Thats a sticky situation.
I dont wanna sound horrible but he may not admit to it, if it is true.
Why cant he confront the guy that wrote it?

Good idea kat!
try to ask the guy who wrote it...
or, you might just have to trust your instincts
i dont think any of us could tell you what to do because we dont know him, try talking to someone who knows both him and you...
maybie they can give you good advice!
x

Nicole91 · 01-05-2008, 09:44 PM

well... i think he's lying somewhere along the line because

1) if he was obsessed wiht im, would he not leave his ontact details, and why would he make up that they ahd sex? it's not like this guy knows your going to read it, if indeed he was obsessed with him he wouldn't make up lies for your boyfriend to read, because your boyfriend would know the truth and just be thinking "what a freak"

2) why has your boyfriend kept the letter?

Miss Loo · 01-06-2008, 03:28 AM

You turned him back gay

Iaretehfush · 01-06-2008, 03:40 AM

I have to admit, I giggled when I read the title.

Then peed myself when I read the post.