Heres the story. Sorry in advance cause it most likely will be long.

I used to like my best guy friend as more than a friend and we were seeing eachother for a bit a long time ago but then after a while we stopped talking on the phone on msn everything. A few months ago he started coming on a lot and flirting with me again talking on the phone for hours till late in the morning chatting on msn and so I started to like him again and he'd tell me he loves me and complimenting me then I found out he had a girlfriend so I told him to stop flirting with me basicaly casue I know how it feels to be cheated on and hurt and i'd never want to be that girl who the guy cheated with. So again we only talked once in a while (small talk)

So now AGAIN he starts talking to me and flirting with me and it seems like it started when I got my cam to work.. figures and he's starting to do all the stuff he used to, telling me he misses me and that his gf doesnt have to know.

I know I would never date him basically because:
1) He hates his life and talks to me about how he wants to die
2) He's violent his ex broke up with him because she thought he would hit her.
3) I hate hate hate cheaters and head games and it's obvious hes not gonna stop even if he was with me.
4) He lives far away in newfoundland and I live in ontario.

So basically I want him to back off but I don't want to affend him, and I still want to be friends with him. Any advice would be really appreciated thanks

Tell him nicely that he should stay with his girlfriend, and not talk to you in a sexual manor. If he wants to chat, like on how your day was, then thats fine, but just tell him you wouldn't feel comfortable flirting back with him, seeing how he has a girlfriend.

yes, i agree with teh derek, you can still be friends with him but tell him strait that it cant lead anywhere, If he keeps talking to you like his girlfriend then youve gotta make him see that he has a girlfriend and should not be practically harrasing you.

Maybe make sure you say that you dont want to progress in the future with him, cause if he likes you more then his current girlfriend, he may dump her, for you, then the girlfriend would be hurt.

yes, excactly, tell him that if you ever dated you could never trust him compleatly because of what he is doing too his current girlfriend. If he lives far away, the only way he can conact you is by phone, instant messenging, ect. If he get to bad to even talk to him you can choose the easy but harsh option, block him out. Hang up his called blick his emails, he will soon get the picture.

tell him to shove off and get a life.
tell him u you used to like him once but that was in the past and your respect his girlfriend.

Okay thanks guys