Ive been with my boyfriend for 13 months now and it hasnt been going that smoothly, in fact its been quite bad for about six months.
we fall out nearly everyweek about something stupid, and recently he has become really wiithdrawn and seems uninterrested in our relationship, it is my birthday coming up soon and i wont be able to see him. tonight he sent me a text message saying 'hey babe i really miss you vome to me please' as we live quite far away from each other and are both unable to drive i couldnt go and see him, however i said he should come online, he replied im going to bed soon so there is no point, to which i replied well come on for a little while then. and he replied 'sorry but no' at that point i was busy and unable to reply and he sent a further message saying 'i didnt mean to snap at you i'm just really tired and pissed off' therefore i phoned him to make sure he was okay and ask what was rong but he didnt want to talk. he then text me saying he was pissed off as he wont get to see me on my birthday. i dont see any need for him to be pissed off as i have suggested he stays at my house that night. which is not good enough for him 'but i dont want to stay at your's' he wants to see me throughout the day which i cannot do as i am at work and he is at college.
i feel like he is making a big deal out of nothing, many a times before have i wanted to see him but he has been 'tired' or 'busy' like today. i just feel like at the moment we are making excuses to fall out.
my head is telling me to end it now and save alot of heartache but my heart doesnt want to let him go, he is so special and does everything right, i couldnt wish for anything more than he gives me and sometimes i dont kow how i would cope without him.
is it better to end it now and risk losing the only person in my life who understands me and knows everything there is to know. or should i hold on with both hands?

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If he's too busy to have a chat with you, then he needs some space, and wants some time to himself.

Don't break up with him yet, however talk with him , see where he's at and then come to a conclusion...

Really try aswell, put loads of effort into trying to see him or make the ebst of it.

Dump him! You can do better.

ok so last night was this works do, it was all going ok i was very tipsy and he had had quite a bit to drink, so i was trying to get him to dance, and he wouldnt, i felt like i couldnt enjoy myself cause it would mean leaving him alone and i would look bad for it (all his family were there) so i kept on at him to come and dance and he got really pissy about it so i just ignored him. and then he got really lary, he full on shouted and seemed to go to hit me, this is the first time he has ever shouted or been nasty to me at all, but it scared me so much and i cant stand to be around him cause im so scared but i cant stand the thought of not being with him at the same time.
god why is life so confusing!!

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That doesn't sound like someone you should be with, at least not at the moment. It definitely sounds like he just wants some time to himself, though he should probably just come out and tell you that instead of trying to get you to figure it out. Maybe next time you talk to him and he seems to be in a bad mood, ask him if he wants to talk about it or if he just wants to be alone for a little.

I was in a mood like this the other night (not exactly the same, but somewhat), I had a terrible day and didn't really feel like talking to anyone. My girlfriend texted me while I was at work, so I texted her back when I got home that night and told her I was in a really bad mood from work and just wanted to lay there doing absolutely nothing for a while. She wanted me to feel better, and I told her the only way I would feel better is if I just had some time to myself. That's not exactly something that a boyfriend/girlfriend likes to hear from the other, but it was true at the time. After I just laid in bed staring at the ceiling for a while I called her and apologized for it, but I just really needed some time alone.

That sounds basically like what's going on with you, only to a much higher degree. If he seems to just want some room or some time to himself, then let him have it. But if this keeps going on for a while longer, then he probably isn't right for you, I know I would hate it if everytime I wanted to see my girlfriend she was too tired or busy to do anything. I could understand maybe a few times, but it seems like everytime you want to see him he's "too busy".

yeh i can see what ur saying, and i try and give him space but then he thinks im ignoring him and is all 'i miss you' so feel i cant do right for doing wrong

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