i'm not his dirty little secret.. am i?

roxy<3_252 · 01-27-2008, 10:46 AM

okay.. i started going to church more regularly about 4 months ago. The first Wednesday I came, I met this guy [you can tell where this goes]. We became friends soon afterwards, but it was kind of a flirtacious little thing floating around as well.. oh, i forgot to mention he's got a girlfriend the whole time..

well, in the past month, we've been flirting non-stop. [he's still got the girlfriend]. and i REALLY like him now.

EVERYONE thinks we go out, but one of us always brings up the fact he's got a girlfriend.

So... Earlier tonight, a whole bunch of us from our youth group went bowling together.. he was there.. so was his girlfriend...

time passes.. and he doesn't even acknowledge i'm there.
at one time, he asks "hey, how are you.. you seem a little ""mad"".."
and of course i'm mad, cause he acts like i don't exist when his
girlfriend's around.. but if she wasn't there, he'd be all over me..

it's gotten to the point where other guys from our youth group are telling him that he can't have both of us..

so, is he stuck on stupid?
why is he playing me like that?
do you think i'm his little "side dish" so to speak?
can i call him out on it?

apollo-might · 01-27-2008, 11:01 AM

of course you can. that's not fair to you.
if you don't think it's your place... it really is.

cassie--valentine · 01-27-2008, 12:22 PM

i think hes trying to say
"i just want to flirt with someone for the sake of it."
hes looking for some 3some action

Laquer · 01-27-2008, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by cassie--valentine

i think hes trying to say
"i just want to flirt with someone for the sake of it."
hes looking for some 3some action

I totally agree, ditch that lowsy pos and go for someone better who will treat you rifght, because if he does flirt with you when he has a gf then cant uyo help but wonder if he will pull the same shit on you?

Bellerr · 01-27-2008, 12:29 PM

I think he is an asshole, and not worth your time or pace of mind.

cassie--valentine · 01-27-2008, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Laquer

I totally agree, ditch that lowsy pos and go for someone better who will treat you rifght, because if he does flirt with you when he has a gf then cant uyo help but wonder if he will pull the same shit on you?

oh, we have alike minds!

Roarbark · 01-27-2008, 04:43 PM

you should definitely call him out on it, he's showing disrespect to both you and his present girlfriend.

Nicole91 · 01-27-2008, 06:35 PM

you liker him, so you're probably trying to read too much into it, he may not even like LIKE you. He just flirts because he can and enjoys it, if he took his girlfriend somewhere which you were to that shows that he wants his girlfriend and not you, if you're going to carry on flirting then don't take it seriously, just a bti of fun because he has a girlfriend, so he's not on the market

Roarbark · 02-02-2008, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by nicole91

you liker him, so you're probably trying to read too much into it, he may not even like LIKE you. He just flirts because he can and enjoys it, if he took his girlfriend somewhere which you were to that shows that he wants his girlfriend and not you, if you're going to carry on flirting then don't take it seriously, just a bti of fun because he has a girlfriend, so he's not on the market

I actually am changing my opinion on this, I agree with Nicole's viewpoint now. Flirting is just a natural process, fueled more by the primal instinct to reproduce then anything else. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then talk to him about it.

Jessikuh · 02-02-2008, 10:16 AM

That's completely not cool.

Confront him.

If you really want to be a bitch, you can confront him in front of his girlfriend.

hiis_chinita · 02-02-2008, 07:46 PM

I do think your his side dish and i dont think that its fair to you or his girlfriend. I think you need to confront him and ask him what he really wants. Its ok if he doesnt say you there are MORE guys and more FAITHFUL guys who will treat you right

ashleytisdale4ever · 02-02-2008, 07:49 PM

I would say something to him.

Tainted x Angel · 02-03-2008, 01:33 AM

You should stop what you're doing right now. Don't let this progress, the farther you get into this the more it will hurt later. The best you can do, is break ties with him now, stop flirting, stop seeing him, stop hanging out with him and everything and just heal. Let your life fall back into place all over again and move on. He's definetly not some one you want to be dealing with as far as I can see.

onyxeyes · 02-03-2008, 05:17 AM

Why would you bother flirting with a guy who has a girlfriend? Both of you are in the wrong.