Ok, so there's this girl that I've known for about 2 years now. We met at a Scouting event back then, and see each other every month or so since. Whenever we are at an event together, we end up spending a bunch of time together, but we've never seen each other in any other setting, although we send e-mails back and forth on a regular basis.

Well, recently I've begin to think of her more and more, and I've started to have feelings for her. Like, if I'm down or feeling lonely, I'll think of her and cheer up. I want to ask her out, but I really don't know how. I've never dated before, or even asked anyone out (I'm 17), and I don't know how to do it. More importantly, I'm afraid she'll say no, and then our friendship could become very awkward.

So, what should I do?

Well, group dates are a great ice breaker. That's how I started dating my current, through Track dates. We kind of became friends through events and eventually a six hour bus ride did us both in. Assuming you don't have six hours to kill on a bus...I'd just go ahead and use the direct approach. I mean if your friendship is that great, you may just be really close friends. Love has come to mean just sexual tension now a days but it can also just mean you care about someone enough to let yourself be vulnerable. I'd say go for it, and if your friendship is strong it will perservere through the awkward stage of a week or so.

You need to ask her how she feels if she is available! Why beat around the bush! Go for it!

Alright, thanks.

I know this likely sounds really dumb, but I've never done it before, so I don't know how to ask someone out. Like, what do you say?

Hey can i ask you something? and then Would you like to go out with me sometime?

orrrr something like that

Hmmmm...alright, thanks.

Should I send her a message online, or ask her in person on Tuesday, when I see her? Keep in mind that I'm much more shy in person than I am behind a computer screen.

I would ask her in person, even if you are shy about it.

I was afraid someone would say that...

I guess if I can talk to her alone it probably won't be too bad to ask her out. One thing that I'm VERY afraid of though: If I ask her out, and she says no, it seems to me that would make our friendship EXTREMELY awkward from then on...

even if she says no u can get over it and become friends again but its worth it if you can go out with herr

goood luck!!

It would be awkward for a little bit, but I'm sure you two could be good friends.. if she rejects you.

I say be nice to her and just tell her how you feel about her