my friend has liked this girl for a very long time. a VERY long time. about half a year ago i started to get to know her, and in no time i was interested in her as well. right after this, my friend kind of backed off and focused on another girl, but recently he realized what he got into was more like slavery. it was the first girl (the one we both like) who led him to this revelation. he now realizes why he liked her, and is interested in her again. he came to me and told me all this, and i told him that i was willing to just be her friend, and that he deserved to be with her more, he knew her better, and had liked her for a lot longer. now i am lately feeling very distraught, and i dont know what to do about it. i still like her, however i cant do anything about it. she is honestly the most amazing girl i have ever met, and although i have liked many other girls before, i have never felt this way about a anyone, and now i feel sort of shattered. so i was wondering if anyone here could possibly help me or give me advice or anything on how to deal with my problem. please?

First of all, I am very sorry, that is a horrible situation to be in. I would wait it out (not there relationship, just don't make any hasty decisions). If I were you I would to my best to suppress the feelings you have for this girl. And I am sure that it comes off as very poor advice and is probably difficult to even execute... but (i'm sure) you're friend would appreciate it and you'll feel better about it in the long run.

i suppose ill try then, although i doubt my efforts will prevail, they havent so far. thank you anyway kind sir/madam.

I'm very sorry, again. It's a bad situation to be in. Best of luck. I = Madam

Ouch.. that is an awful situation to be in. You could always tell your friend how you feel but still let him know that you are going to lay off.. but maybe if he knows he wont be so .. like into her, for lack of a better way to put it.. around you. So that way he wont be all over her or anything in front of you cuz that only makes it worse. Im sorry though.

yeah i was going to go to him about it eventually. thanks for the advice

I rckon if 2 people really like the same perosn.maybe it's best for boith of you to just back away and keep your friendship, theres plenty more fish in the sea and even though you might of had a special connection with her you can find that again.

You did the right thing backing off and letting him go for it, but i also think he now should tell you a girl is not more important than you are.

ill try looking for other fish, but im not sure i can.

Hmm like everyone else says its a pretty tough situation. But dude hear me out loud, ive been on your case, before i literally know whats goin on cuz iv been on it. And to tell u the truth, laying off from the girl would be my advice, u know cuz like probably u like her perhaps love her, but in the end ull still lose her, trust me its not like ur gonna marry her, and whats worst about this is that probably ull be with her for a good while, and ull feel great, but in the end when its over, the one things ull lose for sure is the friendship with ur friend most likely, perhaps not totally but the friendship wunt be the same, and for what, jst for a girl that lasted for a while, thats what i know. But if ur heart says otherwise then go for it man, but remember what i said fist!!