Things are a little bad for me right now. My mind is flooded with horrible confusion. I would greatly appreciate any advice you could give me.

Timess
Martin - broke up October
Jack - got together November

In short: My boyfriend loves me dearly, is a great guy but I kinda still have feelings for my ex who wasn't the nicest. That's for the lazy people who don't particularly want to read my onslaught of words.


My boyfriend, Jack, the loveliest guyI've ever met, he loves me and would pretty much do anything for me. But I don't feel the same way. Sure, I care for him and maybe I will grow to love him but right now I just can't. See just before I started seeing him I was with another guy, Martin, who wasn't exactly the nicest boyfriend but he wasn't the worst, and when he broke up with me I fooled myself into thinking that I didn't love him when in actual fact I did and thought that the best thing to do was to start a new relationship with Jack (not right off the bat I must say). But now I really regret that because I've came to realise that I do still have feelings for Martin. On Friday night I saw him with another girl he's been fooling around with and it's just ripped all these feelings up to the surface and I don't know what to do.
Sure Jack is a nice guy, he loves me and compliments me and makes me feel loved but it doesn't feel special at all. Martin loved me and complimented me, but it was less often and therefore more of a big thing. It felt nicer being with him or something.

It's too late to get back with Martin I'm thinking. Less than a month into our relationship Jack booked a holiday for the two of us, and a few friends. He payed for my ticket. He's too nice to break up with and I don't think Martin would want me back now anyway. I suppose what I really want is to get over him and be able to love Jack.

You can't have your cake and eat it. Lots and lots of people have been in this situation. I know I have, I could sit here and say the obvious answer is to stay with your loving caring boyfriend but in the end its down to you and subconciously you know the right thing to do, follow you instincts. Not great advice but eh, am tired lol

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