Ever since my last real relationship, my love life has pretty much been completely f---ed up. All i really want out of life is a loving wife and lots of wonderful kids. The only problem is i'm a emotional mess. It's not that i'm still in love with my ex, cause that's not the problem. For some reason ever since that horrible relationship ended, which by the way lasted 4 years, i've been stuck in a emotional void. I miss signs that girls give, and even when i notice them, for some reason i choose to ignore them. If that isn't the scenario then it's usually i'll get as far as talk to the girl, she'll show lots of interest in me, and for some reason i just quit trying. Why is this. I know that i'm emotinally imbalanced. I was this way with my ex, i have a co-dependent personallity meaning when i'm in love, i treat the one i'm with like a freaking queen, always there for her, always caring, trusting, loyal, (yeah my ex, was for some reason completly opposite, that's why the relationship was so bad, but since i loved her. i couldn't break up with her, although i knew it would be for the best, but i couldn't because i didn't wont to see her cry.) I'm not shallow at all, in fact i tend to have things for girls who are quiet and shy, rather then those who like to socialize and party, usually those who like me. I'm not a bad looking fellow at all, and socially pretty well accepted. qb on the football team that went undefeated and took state, goalie for soccer team. I just don't understand why i refuse to let anyone close to me. All i live for is love. that's all i want out of life, yet i refuse to let anyone close enough to let this happen. I, for some reason refuse to let down my gaurd. I give lame excuses for why i can't talk to someone anymore or i just choose to ignore them when they message me. I feel bad for this, yet i can't help it. Does anyone else have this problem, or possibily have any advice. I've been going through this for so long that i have to say something, and this place seems to be a good place to say something about it. if anyone can help then please do so.

interesting.

awesome. PM me. i can help you.

i dont really know. I think that you are scared because of your last experience. Not all girls are the same just give one a chance but take things slow and let her know what you fear and let her know how you feel. It is time to start being happy and enjoying life. Just have fun go on dates and find out what you like and want and you may find some interesting girls.
just dont give up and enjoy life. Take a chance. You will most likely get your heart broken again it will hurt but it happens unfourtunatly it really sucks. You will find her and i give you the best of luck

I'm in the same boat man. I feel the same way.

I have been through all this

mmm im going thur that right now.... i dont like girls that are really popular and shit...
and my ex cheated on me hardcore so i try not to date as much or really anything.. since that day my life has kinda sucked... :[