going through you bfs or gfs text messages?

anatak · 03-02-2008, 07:02 AM

is it ok? Like do you guys think its a big deal or an invasion of privacy? Like if we r together then why would it matter unless they are trying to hide something right? Or what.
What do you think?

Paralytic · 03-02-2008, 07:17 AM

No, I don't think it's okay. It's an invasion of privacy. And even if they are hiding something, well they are entitled to SOME secrets. It may not even have anything to do with you.

Lady Moonbeam · 03-02-2008, 07:39 AM

I think it's wrong, if you trust them you shouldnt need to go through their messages no matter what the reason unless they ask you to find a specific message for them for whatever reason. I have never done it to anybody i've been with and nobody's ever done it on me, except my sister, and she got one hell of a slap across the face for doing it. What exactly are you hoping to find by going through someone's texts? It's just being nosy, it's like sitting behind the door listening in on a conversation.

DeLarge · 03-02-2008, 08:09 AM

Not right.

Hobone · 03-02-2008, 08:50 AM

It's an invasion of privacy, but if you have a really good reason to suspect they are doing something wrong, I think it's worth the risk....

redhunter · 03-02-2008, 09:10 AM

if your not trusting her/him with something or someone just confront her/him with the problem. It will only worsen your relationship if the other finds out that you have been going through his/her text messages.

Hobone · 03-02-2008, 09:15 AM

I think it depends on the people in the relationship. If my girlfriend were checking my text messages, I wouldn't be mad because I have nothing to hide.

bubba4289 · 03-02-2008, 12:01 PM

I tend to be a jealous/[FONT='Calibri','sans-serif']suspicious [/font]person do to the fact that in a past relationship I was cheated on. I will admit that I check my gf's texts, although my gf was my best friend before the realtionship and I know she wouldnt cheat on me. Is it wrong? It may be but she shouldnt have anything to hide. But for the record my gf knows I do it.

Lady Moonbeam · 03-02-2008, 12:10 PM

yes it's wrong, it's like you're checking up on her. If you trust her you shouldnt need to

Nicole91 · 03-02-2008, 04:52 PM

It depends upon how long you've been dating and your age.

I know some people that don't care if their other half look through their texts, whilst just randomly being on their phone, their partner wants to share evrything with that person so doesn't really mind. I also think age plays a part because when you're young you want freedom and independance. Having little secrets on your phone is part of that.

I,however would not like it. It seems a bit clingy for someone to be doing that in a relationship at my age. Also an indication of no trust in the relationship.

Tomski · 03-02-2008, 10:32 PM

I think it shows you cannot trust a person if you feel the need to pry through personal messages sent to them. Just think of it this way, would you open their letters that came through the door, steal their email password and read their emails and bug their phone to listen in on their conversation? Without trust there can be no real relationship.

LovetoLive · 03-02-2008, 10:45 PM

I dont think its wrong..they should'nt have anything to hide. Just my opinion.

LovetoLive · 03-02-2008, 10:46 PM

I dont think its wrong..they shouldn't have anything to hide.But like if your in relationship you like really trust them. I wouldn't go through the texts but i dont think its wrong. Just my opinion.