What to do part 2? please lotsa adivce!

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 03:20 AM

I really love this guy and his mom and i are good friends is it ever okay to hint stuff at someones mother that you like or love their son?As much as i would LOVE to tell him in person he lives a good 14hr drive away from me he moved out a year ago but his family is still here so i speak to his mother since were in the same aerobics class but they will be moving shortly to be closer to him so i may never see them/him again.Also he just got this big job so he will be travelling around for filiming/directing. I can't really phone him since its been a while its just weird i have tried getting over him and moving on but its just so hard. I have very strong feelings for him i just imagine doing everything with him i always wanted him to be my first, i think about him all the time i just can't help it.

Adramlech · 03-06-2008, 03:24 AM

Don't get involved in long distance relationships.
Are you sure its love and not just typical infatuation.

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 03:39 AM

Oh believe me its definaetly love and i am not just meaning it like the way i thought love was when i was 15

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 03:44 AM

I started off liking him 3 years ago and in between i have liked other guys but i have easily moved on after them but this one guy theres just something about him that i don't want to let go of. I can't bring myself to get over him I care about him soo much no matter how bad things were that we went through. I would do anything for him and i would fly to wherever he was just to be with him. I have never had these feelings for anyone before and i can't even look at any other guys.

Quill · 03-06-2008, 03:46 AM

if you love him that much then do it, unless theres any easier alternative which there doesnt seem to be

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 03:51 AM

Things were a little rough with us we got in a fight but that was 2years ago and we kinda just left things at that we never really made closure and i just messaged him about a month ago on facebook just to say hi just to be friendly and find some kind of closure and i figured by now he probably forgot the whole thing since it happened long ago. But he doesn't respond to messages unless its from family members or very close friends so thats kinda frusterating and since his mom and i talk a lot and were on great terms i feel like shes the only way. so is this good or bad idea?

xEarthquake754 · 03-06-2008, 05:46 AM

How close were you and him before he moved away? If you were good friends, then I think you should give him a call instead of telling his mom. Maybe you could even get his address from his mom before he goes traveling and write him a letter. My ex-boyfriend, but best friend still, move and I wrote him a whole notebook and gave it to him when he visited. He loved it. You could keep it casual, sort of like catching up wth an old friend and stick it in there too. If telling his mom is all that you can do, like your last resort, then I say go for it, but if you've got other ways of it being straight from you to him, I think that's even better. Good luck

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 08:59 AM

Thanks that sounds good i'll try and if he resorts to ignoring me well than i guess theres nothing i can do to change his mind about me

onyxeyes · 03-06-2008, 09:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Mileyiley

Things were a little rough with us we got in a fight but that was 2years ago and we kinda just left things at that we never really made closure

I think that right there is the reason why you can't get over him. It may not so much be your feelings for him or that you love him, it may just be that you need closure.

Mileyiley · 03-06-2008, 09:24 AM

onyxeyes i think you hit it right on the nail i never thought of it that way but now that you mention it your right. Its driving me nuts not knowing exactly what he thinks about it and the fact that he's guna be travelling a lot just makes it tougher since he's guna be around several different people and he's guna meet a lot of new girls for his company and it just sucks not knowing. As much as i love him i don't want to scare him off by showing him that since its been so long and he thinks i am over him, thats why i'd like to keep it on a friendly basis but its hard when he never gets messages.