I am 17 male of Nova Scotia, Canada. Suffering from acne; I have been classified a nerd. In my spare time I am either behind a computer or reading, and I can solve a Rubik’s Cube in approx. 80 seconds - not all that fast, but I hold the best times I am aware of in my school. I am fairly shy when it comes to girls - obviously when trying to talk to ones I find attractive - I actually don't think I ever have... Now that you know a little bit about me; here is my dilemma.

I was walking through the halls between classes one day last week; feeling confident I started looking around trying to spot some girls that I would even consider getting to know better. Well, I did just that. I spotted this really cute girl, and before I could even stop to think, it was too late. I had walked right pass her without saying a word. I couldn’t even dare to think about making eye-contact.

After trying to seek help from my friends, all I got was them telling me to go bother someone else. The only suggestion I received was to add her on Facebook. At this point I didn’t even know her name, but with an hour of searching through pictures I finally found out who she was, so of course I added her. Now I’m not entirely sure of what I was thinking, but I started freaking out after a few hours and as there is no way to cancel a friend request, I deleted my Facebook account. Little good did that do, because the next day I decided to make a new Facebook, and I’m sure you can guess who I re-added.

Currently, I am stuck in a situation where I believe she knows of my Facebook invite which has been pending for the past three days – she has accepted several other requests, but not mine – and I am not entirely sure how I should approach her, if I ever manage to bring up the courage to do so. Also, being homeschooled till I was 13 my social life has taken a great toll, so to me, even approaching someone for no reason seems totally foreign.

On a side note, I also feel that I am being a stalker. Obviously not the kind of stalker you here about that would follow someone home or try to rape them, but I mean, is it wrong that I found her name through Facebook, and that I take long ways around for getting to my classes to try and figure out where her classes are?

I can basically say that I am over thinking a lot of this, I know that, but every time I hear someone say “What’s the worst that can happen?” something about my logical personality screams “Well… She could say ‘No’, but if there is anything I can do to increase my chances of a ‘yes’ should I not take them?” This usually ends with me trying to plan a perfect encounter, which I’m am sure everyone must know, isn’t possible. So, how should I approach her, is it weird to just randomly go up to someone and just say “Hi”, and am I being a stalker?

Well, thank you for taking your time to read this post, any suggestions are welcome.

Definately.

I don't think adding her on FaceBook was a stalkerish thing to do; people I don't know well from school add me on sites like that and I think nothing of it. Don't take it too harshly if she hasn't accepted your friendship request; she doesn't know you and she might only want people she knows in her friends. If you're really into her maybe you should send her a message saying hi and something like you were just browing FaceBook and came across her account and realised you went to the same school... But if that doesn't work then she is only a random girl who you don't know and there are plenty of others who you can get to know better and ask out, whatever.

What he said ^. I get people adding me on MSN who are like freinds of freinds of freinds's mother's uncles cousins freinds daughters nephew's freind's grandmother.

*She!

I'm sure you've made that mistake before... :l

Keep trying, there is bound to be someone out there for you, pm me if u want any advice on wat girls think or 2 chat or anything

*sigh* I'll just agree with Stratosphere.... I add people all the time on myspace and all that that I don't really know....

i have people adding me all the time on msn and bebo and i normally accept all except when i think its a bit weird that person adding me. im sure she'll add ya. at least u had the confident to add the person you like if she doesnt talk to you then she isnt worth knowing.

Not to make you feel bad or anything, but it might be a bit weird to follow her to her classes to see which ones she has. The facebook thing isn't weird at all, that stuff happens all the time. I agree to just send her a facebook comment saying hi or something along those lines, then when she responds if it goes ok, it should be less weird for both of you if you want to approach her during school.