ok so I'm am very confused and I need help making a descion
Boy 1= he is 23 and he is my boyfried we have been together for over a month. We have so much fun when we are together. I love him. He makes me so happy, we have had very few arguments. We go on dates and stuff he stays with me almost every night. But he is a bartender (dont really like that) and we dont really like the same music I listen to the stuff he does and I've started to like it.
Boy 2= I've known him since last summer we have hung out before and everything. Recently we started hanging out like every day. Boy 1 knows we hang out and is here with me most of the time. I have always thought he was cute. Ever since we started hanging out again I realized I had all these feelings for him. He is way nice and our backgrounds and likes are the same. But he smokes weed which is fine I dont mind, but it gets you in trouble.

I just dont know what to do and am really confused. Should I throw away everything me and boy 1 have for him or should I stay with boy 1 its just hard because I love boy 1 and I really like him so much and everything is pretty good between is other then him not calling or coming over when he says he will and is always late. But its ok
should I stay with boy 1 orshould I give boy 2 a chance? Pleasehelp

Well if boy 1 is not calling or coming over when he says he will and is always late...I would consider dumping him even if there wasn't a boy 2. I've been with a guy just like your boyfriend and please believe me when i say that it only gets worse. It may not seem that bad now...and you're probably saying that it's not a big deal....but it will eventually start to wear on you. He's showing you in little ways that he doesn't respect you or your time the way he used to.
The weed thing kinda stinks about boy 2....but as long as he's respecting you the way boy 1 isn't...i would give him a chance!

take a long talk with both of them

Exactly, try and work things out between you and your b/f. And if it doesn't get any better I say the other needs his chance.

number one.

how old are you first of all?

According to one of her other posts, she's 17.

in that case... male-B

male-A would be too much for you to handle.

ok so update.
boy1: I haven't seen him since sat morning(which is fine I dont mind, I miss him tho) he doesn't call or text or anything. I have to first. Well last night I called him I told him he wasn't acting the same, he isn't acting like he cares, it just doesn't feel the same. He said I'm sorry baby I love you I will change. And today-no text or call(suprise) I honestly love him and I really want things to work out. I dont want to break up with him but he needs to realize that I won't just sit around and let him treat me like this. It just feels like he doesn't care. I dont know what to do about him. He is really great with my little bro and sisters which is one of the reasons I started dating him



Boy 2: we have been hanging out a lot. He's came over and helped my parents he texts me all day and comes overas much as he can. Everybody i talk to says he is a really sweet guy. I want to go to prom with him.

I dont know what to do. I love my bf so much and i want things to work out so bad but he needs to act like a better bf. I feel bad because i think i like someone else. I feel like if i dont give boy 2 a chance i will regret it but then again if i break up with my bf i will always wonder what we could have been. I have no idea what to do anymore.
please help. I kind of think my bf has someone else he is spending time with but i dont want to ask. With boy 2 i know i wouldnt have to worry about it. Im so confused

boy 2. by far. seriously.

I get the feeling most people will probably say stick with your bf but in my opinion you have to follow your heart.

otherwise your just sticking with your bf for reasons to please others. please yourself first, its your life.

Boy 2........

i wuld say boy 2

The fact that you have an interest in someone else proves that you do NOT love your boyfriend.

I say either take a break from guys and break up with your boyfriend, then figure out what you want, or go with the other guy. Either way, you should probabaly break up with your current boyfriend.