ok so i asked the love of my life if i had a chance with her and she said that she dosnt date anymore... and this is true she hasnt dated for 10months or more since her ex... im guessing he hurt her in some way... but anyway i want to date her so bad it keep me up at night cause i dont know what to say to get her to even give me a chance... id be happy if we where just good friends but im to shy around her. and it hurts knowing that i cant even talk to her cuzz of my shyness :/
Anyone have an idea of what i can say to her to mayb help her forget about what her ex did to her?

i like her so much that at times i feel like im going to die if im not with her :/

Oh please!, the love of your life trying to make it into a film drama or soemthing? your intertested in her more like, because you said you wouldn't mind if she was a good friend of yours and you havn't even dated her yet, how do you know what it's like to date her.

If she doesn't want to have a boyfriend at the moment then just be a good friend to her, and be there for her, that's all you can do really. If you're to shy to even talk to her then I can't see how she'll ever be your girlfriend?

*sighs*

I'm going to put it gently.


GROW SOME BALLS YOU COMPLETE FAIRY.


Ok, that didn't go so well.

^ The original post was a bit over-dramatic, but I think both your (plural) posts were unnecessarily harsh. :l

But meh, I don't think you can persuade someone into going out with you that easily. Either she's not interested or has issues with her ex (not over him yet or he just messed her up). If it's the latter, then maybe you could try to be a good friend to her and restore her faith in relationships and people, but I don't know, from what you said it doesn't look too good. Hard thing to do but try and think about finding someone else who is willing to appreciate you.

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Well... maybe it's better that you keep your razor-sharp harshness and wit in other threads. If I asked for help and someone responded with stupid comments I'd be pretty annoyed.

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I gave advice I just gave my opinion too, jeese can I not even say what I think to that extent anymore?

Yes, but if it was a situation where help was actually needed I'd at least throw in an apology for my previous insults. :P

Problem is, I get a little bit riled by these blokes on here going a bit dorothy on us. "oooo I'm in love and I don't know what to do. I can't sleep at night. *crys*".

Either let your feelings be known, or do nothing and find another girl. Whatever you do, come and post when you ACTUALLY need help.

This is the sort of example of the moisturizing, 2 hours in front of a mirror, sobbing cos Claire stamp on his hand-made valentines card, ponce 21st century man that makes me glad I don't consider myself to be in this category of bloke. This is meant in no form offensive to women - but jesus, STOP BEING SUCH A GIRL

At the thread starter, be PROACTIVE. If you really are sobbing yourself to sleep cos you can't go out with Mabel or whoever it is - see a doctor. Or maybe just tell the girl and move on/move in with her. That might help your insomnia.

/rant thread.

Well if she truly doesn't want to date then there really isn't anything you can say to make her. But more often than not, girls will forget their past experiences if they feel like a better guy has come along and sparked their interest. Just try to form some kind of friendship with her for now and see how it goes...but don't be too pushy. If she's interested, she'll open up...despite what her ex might've done.

Of course you have rights to your opinions; I never said that you didn't. But on a thread where someone is asking for advice, even though I agree with ya that he was exagerating I don't I don't really think mocking someone will help him. People get carried away with stuff, he sounds quite young, maybe effeminate even. Perhaps he does need a bit of a wake up call but, yeah, I thought you were being harsh.

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We need more people like you in this forum! Seriously..

guys.. please can we try and keep this topic on topic... this persons obviously upset, if your girlfriend/boyfriend was upset would you just say, grow some balls! or stop being such a fucking fairy!

no..

so just help the poor kid..

Im sorry you feel this way hinx, i hope everythign goes well for you..

As if this post was anymore helpful to him.

hey hun, try being good friends, be there for her, she what happened in the past, gain trust, say stuff like ill be there for yuu etc....you'll do ok hun =] xx

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i couldn't have said it any better... well i could of said it more of a jerkish way... so, yeah! i could have said it better... but the deed is done.

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