Originally Posted by Mattster

Hm, Well. This is why I find it hard to understand girls; I try my best to.

If you look at each other surely there's something there. Maybe she's shy to?
They're could be a possibilty of that aswell, Us lads aren't just the ones who get this shyness, girls to. Let's say she does like you but she's also shy and she doesn't know what to do to get your attention maybe.

She must of obviously told you not to get with the other girl for a reason not just because the other girl smoked and stuff. There must be another reason. Put it this waay we've gotta look positive. I think (Although you suffer with shyness like myself) you should like get her attention, maybe hang around with her or actually try to start a conversation with her. If you think that's hard, is there a possibitly that you both have the same friend, maybe. Like cause you could tell this friend that you like the girl but your to shy/scared to talk to her because of rejection.

This is basically how my 9 month relationship started I guess. I worked with this girl and I liked her and I told my (girl) friends and as girls do they talk about it.. And the person i liked heard about it, we started talking more started to hang around more. Even though she has a boyfriend.

Girls have their own kind of chats, not like us lads do or a lad with a girl. They talk about loads, and you'd be lucky as a lad to even get a peep of what they talk about. You've gotta touch your feminine side as people put it. Let your emotions and caring show to your friends even the girl you like. If you like her that much you an't let shyness get in the way. Sure, Shyness sucks so bad it actually hurts you. Other times it saves you but you've gotta put something at risk to find out what is going to happen becausse if you don't then like if you don't talk to her or get to know her or let her hear about you likeing her then like, what happens if she gets with someone else.

Let's say she did like you, but to shy like yourself and she didn't know anything about you likeing her cause you was to shy to tell her or to shy to tell anyone else. She could possible start to think you don't like her and she will probably try to find another guy. You've gotta think of this possibilites. It's now or never. Things happen, people change. But if you go for what you love there's a chance you can get it, but you need to put your own effort into aswell or nothing will go they way you'd hope they'd go.

It's a difficult thing to talk about but I've had loads of experiances of this and I know what to do but I suffer with shyness myself and in the end I fail due to it. You can't let the same thing happen to you. I hope I've got something into you and I hope you do get to know this girl more better and have the chance to even be with her.

Good luck