Need Advice

Kasada · 04-11-2008, 09:18 AM

Alright, I'm a 13 year old in 7th grade. Just this year, I've grown to like a girl that I've known for quite a long time. You could call us friends or, more accurately, acquaintances before this year. I didn't really know her that well before. Since 1st grade, I could tell you her name. Thats about it. I've spent quite a bit more time with her this year as she is in two of my classes, (One of which I've had a lot of time to talk with her.) and this has probably helped with developing my crush. This is probably the first time I've had one and it's driving me insane. I can't seem to stop thinking about her and don't have any idea what I should do. I have little trouble talking to her (though I wouldn't consider myself extremely out-going.) or her friends (It helps that I've known her friends for quite some time.) but have little-to-no experience in the dating field and would be clueless if I tried to ask her out.

I told one of my friends that I like her, unknowing of how much I would regret it. This person has constantly questioned me whether I still like her or not, he is a really good friend of hers (wish I would of known that), and has destroyed any sort of secrecy about the matter to her. I'm positive that he has told her about this and, because of him, many other people have learned about it as well. It doesn't help that the same scenario occurred with another friend of mine which happened to know her sister. Other random events (That all stem from having told that one person) also easily confirm to her that I like her.

Short Version: She knows I like her, though not by my hand.

The thing is, is that she acts completely oblivious about it when I'm with her. She has not hinted at it once, though I still believe she knows. The other problem is that I don't know if she likes me or not as she shows no signs leaning toward either side. I need advice on what I should do. Any help at all is appreciated.
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Kasada · 04-11-2008, 07:19 PM

Anyone have any advice for me?

Nicole91 · 04-11-2008, 07:45 PM

Well your not sure if she knows, so i'd say just carry on as you were, even if she does know...so what? it's probably good so you can hopefulyl get the ball rolling. If your interested that much then ask her out, especially if she's showing an interest in you too. Worst thing that could happen is she'll say no, then you have a bit of embaressment, but that's it, no big deal.

vivika · 04-11-2008, 08:32 PM

Even if she does know that you like her, she might not be showing it to you because she may not have much experience with the dating thing as well. An easy way to spend some more time with her is to do your homework together for the two classes that you have. Do you have her phone number? If you do than you can call her about a school related thing. What do you have in common - movies, music, etc.? If you don't know ask her. These are things that you can easily talk over the phone about. I will agree with Nicole that it's best to be straight forward and ask her out, but I know that it’s not always easy. Good luck, and tell us if everything is OK.

Kasada · 04-12-2008, 03:51 AM

Thanks for the advice. Also, when someone mentions the matter to her when I'm around, the someone being an acquaintance rather than a friend, she almost immediately responds to it saying that she "Doesn't even like me" (Note that the comment is meant to be a joke and it's more of a "fake/future relationship" comment rather than a "So-and-so likes you" comment. Tell me if you don't understand what I'm saying.) I consider it a reflex-action, but what do you think?

robb · 04-12-2008, 04:16 AM

Girls tend to do that if someone says something like that...they get embarrased and yeh its like a reflex.
You should spend time with her out of school where there isnt anyone to intrude.

Plink · 04-12-2008, 08:50 AM

I have to say that I remember this stage when I was growing up. You tell one person that you like someone and then boom, shit hits the fan. If she does not say anything about it or even fazed by it then keep doing what you would normally do. When you get to know her more and sum of the courage. Ask her out on a date.