Hello,
Well I want to describe myself alittle first. Im a senior at my highschool and I've never dated or even had a fling. In short, I've developed some shyness because I hate the pain of rejection. Oddly enough though people come to me for advice, mine is very mediorce because well...I dont have any experience. Im that typical nice guy people seem to be able to trust and have fun with. I know how make girls laugh and I easily befriend alot. Contradictory to my shyness I often poke fun at myself which gets people to easily break the ice with me, I dont mind, I love to laugh. For example:
Friend 2: "You know show is cool? Scrubs."
Me: "Oh yeah, I like Cox."
Friend 1 "Wow."
Me: "Uuuhh...that didnt sound right did it?"
We all laughed, I didnt care I had somewhat embarressed myself that day. However thats just with people I consider my friends.
Okay now to the point. It was the beginning of my Senior year I do my regular checks. However one girl caught my eye who rides my bus(my mother is afraid I'll get into an accident if I drive so Im forbidden to get my license until Im 18 which isnt too far away). At first I thought she was alittle strange because she put on alot of eye make up to give herself black rings and she had a strange smile because she had some thick braces...so I didnt think anything about it. However her friend was loud and obnoxious and easy to notice.
As time passed by my friend I targetted the friend who was easy to annoy because she was far from smart and she seemed to have fun poking fun at another guy. The girl that caught my eye noticed this and always gave me this strange look, but said nothing. So it had been during this time I began to notice the girl who caught my eye more and more. It was then I came to the conclusion: she was beautiful. Even in the midst of conversation with my best friends her image always sprang up in my mind. Sounds like a childish crush doesnt it? Well I cant say it isnt. Well anyway much time past and I befriended her friend(turns out for someone who isnt too bright she was alright) and we often talked and hung out. However the girl I liked never looked at me or spoke to me. SHe gave me an occasional glance with a smile, but thats it. So I got the feeling she hated me.
Anyway I wanted to be closer to her, but she wouldnt speak to me as often as I first thought. I smiled one time her friend was absent and asked her what was in a box she had, she smiled back and said it was for chorus and that she liked to sing, that was it. Oh gosh shes so cute. I guessed it was because I helped get on her friend's nerve. So I stopped. One day a friend of their's was talking to me and she started talking about the girl I liked and at the heat of the moment I blabbed out the girl I liked was cute and pretty. She had a field day with that and what utterly dumbfounded me was that she and that girl's friend found her ugly! I couldnt believe it. They said she was ugly, wierd, and dumb as dirt. I got alittle mad and they realized that I really did have feelings for that girl.
The next day her friend pressured me to ask her out, but I couldnt, she intimidated me and because of lack of eye contact and speaking I constantly thought she'd reject me. So her friend gave me an ultimatum, either I ask her out or she'd tell her.
I just couldnt though, I always worked up the nerve and then when Im around her I shatter. So her friend told her I had feelings for her, infact, she shouted on the bus I liked her. The girl did nothing though except act embarressed.
Now as time passed by, all cards on the table, I began taking note of her attitude. She was very strange when I was around her. Due to the eagerness of her friend I began to sit next to the two. The girl I fancied hardly looked at me...even when I asked her a question she didnt look at me and simply mumbled a one word answer. SHe never intiates a conversation with me. It seems she only does this to me, when its others she can talk her mouth off. Even though she pays no attention to me when I talk to her friend I know she listens. She laughs when we laugh if I make a joke and if I say something really interesting she says something relating to her friend...not me. Needless to say I got frustrated because she was ignoring me. Funny thing though, all year I never ran into her friend in the halls, but I always seem to run into her. When we pass and if I look at her she doesnt look at me, but I figured a trick out. When we pass and If I look at her in the corner of my eye(not directly) she looks at me.
Im utterly infatuated by her, but I feel as though shes way too hard because I never encountered anyone like her before. She has such a strange behavior toward me. Like I said though only in rare occasions does she look at me and its usually nicely with her seductive eyes. Everytime she does though I feel a slight connection. I still cant talk to her though. When I ask question she still mumbles the answer and its usually one worded, her friend acts like a translator though and repeats what she says louder. Though when they speak...I can hear her fine. I try to get her to notice me by talking about interesting subjects...with no results. However sometimes when we're standing and waiting for the bus, she tries to not be infront of me...she moves away even if it is quiet. Sometimes we spoke at the same time to her friend and she usually gives an awkward face and be quiet, but I love her voice and want her to speak.
I did some research and found a few incidents where she could be shy and just awkward around me. Some people who know her say she has a rough time at school so Im guessing it may have made her shy and awkward. I thought she may like me, but her friend said that when she found out I liked her she said 'ew' and said I was ugly. I dont know if I can trust this or not or maybe she was just alittle defensive about her feelings...I have no idea, but those things kept me from asking her out.
So I ask, what is her problem? Does she like me? Does she hate me? I need to know.

im exactly the same. god, this should be an essay, youd get an A+! stick to basics, wots ur situation?

Really, your like that?

Well Like I said at the bottom: So I ask, what is her problem? Does she like me? Does she hate me? I need to know.

ok. i am shy around girls. im 15 and havent kissed anyone. take my word for it, im like you. ok. i dunnoif she lks u. girls are usually playful and can shy away from u in public, but theyre just guidelines, afterall, everyones different. if ur gonna ask her out, dont just blurt it out. just try and be friends, but slowly bring it on. be nice, chatty an playful and she should be playful back. just keep working on your friendship and slowly make it out that you like her.

ok. i am shy around girls. im 15 and havent kissed anyone. take my word for it, im like you. ok. i dunno if she lks u. girls are usually playful and can shy away from u in public, but theyre just guidelines, afterall, everyones different. if ur gonna ask her out, dont just blurt it out. just try and be friends, but slowly bring it on. be nice, chatty an playful and she should be playful back. just keep working on your friendship and slowly make it out that you like her.

Well let me tell you something. When you are shy you are not really good at showing the correct expressions at the correct time. The easiest expression to show is anger. Try to get her by herself and tell her whats up. See how that goes. Maybe she will not be shy if you tell her that you understand how she feels.

true lol. but i cant help it.

Being shy is something you will grow out of. However, not naturally. YOU have to make the move to start talking to people and this that and the other thing. I'm at the point now where when I meet new people I'm completely chill.

Remember though it will not dissipate on its own.

im therefor supposed to do what?

Well, you don't know her well at all and it seems like you've tried really hard to talk to her but without a real response. I'm afraid if she told her friend that she wasn't interested in you then this is pretty likely to be true, but she could have been lying if she knew that what she was saying would get back to you and also felt uncomfortable or nervous about a relationship. I don't wanna give you false hope, but I used to be incredibly shy and I did that.

If you do want to carry on trying with her, you really need to get to know her better and get her to open up a bit, away from your mutual friend. If you see her in school you could talk to her then. Or mabye try and get her MSN or whatever because shy people can be way more talkative online.

Yeah, definately agree.

Therefore your supposed to gradually start talking to people. Just start thinking of little funny things to say. Don't avoid a conversation. Even if the person has nothing really interesting to say. Make things up to say.

ok thanks