I know many others i know have had problems with age gaps in there relationships but just recently i seemed to have developed my own.
Im a 16 year old boy and not being big-headed but i like to think of myself as quite sensible but for two months now i've been "seeing" a 13 year old girl. The thing is she doesn't really look 13, i'd say more 15 and i do really like her, i would nearly go as far to say im actually in love with her. She is very much in love with me too, as i can tell by what she says.
The problem comes with the age though, im 16 (legal but haven't had sex) and she is 13 (but very eager as they all seem to be at that age ) and i would just like any advice that people can give.
We get along great and we've messed around but im wondering how far i should let it go but i honestly do love her, probably the strongest i felt about anyone.

Thank You...

Thats not a big age gap. Maturity is the most important thing, not so much the age. Not unless you're 18 and she's 14!

Its not wrong of you to be together, just maybe wait a while for sex as she is obviously very young still.

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That's too young. I'm 16 and i have a 13 year old sister, she's ridiculously young compared to me in my eyes. I know it's all about maturity ect but a 13 year old hasn't had much time to mature. These kids are just starting to go out on their own, into town with mates ect. I'm far from asking mummy if it's okay if i can go town with a few friends for an hour... i'm almost 17 so i'm pretty close to the stage where i can go out into pubs and clubs and pretty much do what i like and i feel im mature enough to do that. 13 year olds are way off that maturity level, a lot of them have barely touch alcohol, with exceptions obviously. But my point is i feel theres a huge maturity difference and you may have experienced stuff a lot of people do on the way to 16 which she hasn't yet.

You can try and kid yourself telling yourself she looks older and acts older but really.. is she really as mature as you? Conversation wise too, not being offensive but education too.. your 3 years above here, thats pretty much the whole of senior school. Your going to be hugely more intelligent and more mature, unless either shes extremely smart or the other way around lol.

I just feel at this age, 3 years is too much. Theres too many differences no matter how many things you can say you have in common.

Plus if i was you i'd hope she doesn't have an older brother. Because i have a sister and i find theres a massive gap between us and if one of my mates even said anything out of place about her they'd know about it.. let alone mention sex in a serious way.

Don't take any of that the wrong way, don't wanna sound offensive or rude.. that's just the way i feel. Maybe she is really mature and maybe she is ready, mentally and physically.. then who am i to judge. But judging by the average 16 year old male and the average 13 year old girl.. you know..

I outright disagree, anyone can act mature, i personally act immature at times.

You named those age gaps but in a sense there only a year difference, having sex when you are of legal age and the other partner is not, is illegal.

Also, if you two were to break up after she can really fuck you over, hell if she told anyone and it got passed around you may get fucked over by the law, don't do it, break up with her.

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I understand what you have said but i didn't mean anything about sex at this point. Im enjoying seeing this girl and we really do get along very well. In truth, she is not as mature as me but she is very mature for her age, acting as mature as most 15 year old girls i know. Both her parents and my parents know we are seeing each other and are fine with it, with the slight exception of her dad. She does have an older brother at my age but he's not really bothered, but then i do know him so i dont think he's going to say much.
I have mixed opinions so far, some mates are saying if i love her just carry on, dont go as far as sex but "sexual" acts are fine, other mates are saying not too but there is a slight bias because they dont know her, so any of them could just be saying this because they think shes a "slag" or maybe they are trying to protect me.
At the moment, im not going to break up with her, i dont play girls like that, i love her for who she is and i believe that if love is there, then you cant just leave it.

What do other people think about this age gap or any age gaps for that matter?

I'm 16....and i wouldnt go out with anyone younger than people in the school year below mine (year 10). Ive know people who have had relationships with a similar age gap to yours and its always been bad publicity for them (people saying they're taking advantage, pedo etc).
It doesnt matter as much when your both legal, but when one of you isnt by quite a while i dont think its right.

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