I've been talking to this guy for a while, and at one point my best friend told me that he's a bad guy. i stopped talking to him for a while because of it, but then we started talking again. more recently, i found out that he got one of his exes pregnant, and i didn't know what to think. he apologized to me for not telling me, but it's not like me and him are together or anything. he kept telling me that he was sorry, so i decided to talk to him about the whole situation. he asked me what he thought about him, and i told him "i think you're an idiot for getting yourself in this situation, but at least you're man enough for taking care of your kid." we talked about it, and he was telling me how he's trying to smarten up and be a good guy so his kid can have a good dad. i know that i'm not stupid enough to do something that i don't want to do, even if he wants to do it. if you were in my situation, would you give the guy a chance?

I'm not a girl but imo, I wouldn't. That would be a storm of shit I don't think you want to deal with.

I wouldn't bother with him. I'd stay friends with him but not bother getting with him in a relationship-wise thing.
I don't want to have a kid in the way when we're together. I don't mind kids but if it's someone else's and he's too young for a kid in the first place, then no.

Well if you're not in a relationship together, then I don't really understand why it's bothering you so much to accept this guy. It' his own problem and he shouldn't be piling it up on you to "forgive" him.

Our group of friends had a little trouble once when a girl thought she was pregnant. She was pretty much made fun of for months. I think he really needs to buck his ideas up, and you need to tell him that. I would certainly think my friend was stupid, if it ever happened to one of them.

But, he seems to be stepping up to his responibilities, which is a good thing because others would just turn tail and run. You need to try and make your mind up about how you fel about this happening to him. But, if you say quickly that you don't want anything to do with him, then it doesn't really sound like you had a friendship with him at all, because a good friend would stand by and try to support the other, even if they disapproved.

You should stay away. Yeah he's made mistakes and he could be regretting them, but if you do give him a chance you'll get dragged into the mess unnecesarily.