my best friend?

deadendjob · 04-20-2008, 04:28 AM

hi, im an 18 year old guy, not really had many relationships but i think im falling in love with one of my best friends (female 17) we talk for ages about anything and before now she has been very flirty with me and i was going to ask her out to see what happens.

but now one of her ex's has come back and i think she is falling for him again and i will be devastated because this guy was so nasty to her.

what can i do to pursuade her not to get back with her ex and do best friend relationships work?

thanks

CJGame · 04-20-2008, 08:14 AM

I'm younger than you and I'm not sure how close you are with this girl, so it's tough to answer. But best friend relationships either end in love (you know, 5 year relationships and stuff) or disaster, becoming distant, and ending your friendship. It's quite a gamble.

Or, you could still stay good friends if she's really cool with you.

deadendjob · 04-20-2008, 03:22 PM

yeah shes cool with me and i know she will continue to be. she has gone out with this ex now anyway so i'll just stay friends and see what happens when he leaves her for another girl again...i dunno what shes thinking

Plink · 04-21-2008, 08:59 AM

Yeah, staying good friends would be a good idea but what I would do is tell her to try and not go for him because it could end up hurting her.

deadendjob · 04-21-2008, 10:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Plink

Yeah, staying good friends would be a good idea but what I would do is tell her to try and not go for him because it could end up hurting her.

well i spoke to her today and hes asked her out but she says she doesent know yet, but i think she will to be honest.

i told her that she should not trust him because of all the shit he gave her when they split up last time and that she should be careful, she just went "aww your so sweet" do you think she would date me but looks at me more as a friend than of a relationship?

Plink · 04-22-2008, 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted by deadendjob

well i spoke to her today and hes asked her out but she says she doesent know yet, but i think she will to be honest.

i told her that she should not trust him because of all the shit he gave her when they split up last time and that she should be careful, she just went "aww your so sweet" do you think she would date me but looks at me more as a friend than of a relationship?

Honestly? No, she would see you as a friend. In your situation she is going to rely on you for advice which may mean you are in the friend zone. Not a good place to be if your intentions are to date the person. But, the worst she could say is no.

DonkieZ · 04-22-2008, 10:07 AM

if you love her as a supporting part in her life, be her best friend wil be better..

this happened to me... although i'm far away from her now, she still shares her problem with me... we are bestest friends =)

deadendjob · 04-22-2008, 10:15 PM

ok thanks for the advice guys