(Long story?)So there's this guy, blonde, into guitars, half a year older than me and basically the total opposite of every single guy I've been with before. I met him about 6 weeks ago on our ski trip. To be honest in 2 years that I've been on the school, I never noticed him. Never. So I met him basically on the last day of the ski trip but on our bus back we were sitting together all the time for 9 hours and just talked and talked. So basically we got to meet. The we had vaca for 3 weeks but we talked during that time. Over e-mails, nothing special. Now 2 weeks ago when I got back we then again talked and blablabla and I just had to tell him that I like him just to see where I am. And he said that he's really confused because he broke up with his girlfriend a week before since they weren't doing anything and that and he does NOT like her anymore but that he just needs time to get to know me. So okay.. I was in quite a shock cuz I never really got rejected.(this is not supposed to sound conceited.) Like I said he's completely different. We talked on the phone for 2 hours about everything and he told me that I'm the funniest girl he ever met and he can talk to me about everything. The scary thing is.. that I would do about anything to be with him and I can't wait that long. So a few days ago I asked him if he thinks I could ever have a chance and he said that he thinks a lot about me, that I'm really good looking and that he has a lot of fun around me and loves to hang out with me but just wants to get to know me. He seems to be saying all the cute things but never the THING I want to hear. And I don't know how I'm supposed to really get to know him because it would probably turn out that I'm really annoying him since I like him. So I'm confused and I don't know what to do about him now. I don't want to forget him or move on or whatever because I believe he's something special. Please help

Oh man, I don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but it looks like he's really not that into you.

As a guy like myself, I would say things like this: "I'm really good looking and that he has a lot of fun around me and loves to hang out with me but just wants to get to know me." When I think a girl is a great person, a great friend, and I just want to stay that way.

I mean, it doesn't even matter if he just got out of a relationship. If he wants to get to know you more, then the best way for that is to actually go on a few dates with you... That would be the best way to actually get to know someone.

But be optimistic about this I guess... Give it time. After all not all guys would want to get into a relationship right after they break up with someone. Maybe he is indeed confused, but who knows.

Right now though, from what you've said, it's not looking that good.

You already asked him if you have a chance, and he told you that "he wants to get to know you more" I mean that's not even a real answer right? It was a yes or no question. That could mean that he's basically saying no but doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so he's giving an excuse to "think about it" or something like that.

I agree with panic...

I was in a similar situation i think. I met this girl at my highschools homecoming game...we didnt really talk that much, or see each other or anything. So the whole situation was kinda stupid..but ill tell you anyway.

We talked a lot over aim and stuff, but we never got to hang out much in person. She said she really liked me, and eventually her friends started asking me over n over if i would go out with her.

I liked her, but not a lot. I told her she was cute and funny and all these things. I finally said I just didnt like her cuz we never hung out or anything.

Ha..so basically...who knows if he really likes you. He might a little bit and just not wanna turn you down, thats wat I ended up doing. Or maybe he does and is shy. Or maybe he actually does need some time and wants to know you. The possibilities...

Oh yes, he's letting you down gently. Saying things like that is an inadverdant way of rejecting you. Just give it a while, maintain a friendship, just like any other friend. Give it a while, he may become interested in you later in life. I know people who've fancied people at one point in their life, and totally moved on months later, while having the other person like them. So wait it out.

Well, the best thing to do IS to try and get to know him better. I mean, why date someone if you know nothing about them?

At the same time, do you think the only reason why you want to be with him so badly is because he sort of rejected you?

^Definitely. I guess I was just trying to make him like me especially why he turned me down so that I could prove myself that I can make it. Well anyways... The thing is that we talked about everything in person and he told me that he really liked me but he was just in a way scared how everything would turn out and what would happen afterwards because we both liked each other... and then what? hah. So then later I was just talking about something.. I really have no idea what it was and then he kissed me. He said he couldn't resist it. So yeah. Now I am with him

Well nice! (:

Good for you! I'm glad this thing turned out so well.

Well done hope the relationship goes well