Hay guys, im kinda new to this site and everything. Anyway i've just been feelin really down for the longest time now. I just feel like out of my group of friends, im the one who doesn't belong. All of them are getting into relationships, making good grades, and completing their goals. On the flipside i have done...............not so much. I feel like im being left behind. We're starting to get more and more distant. Sometimes I think im just not good enough. Well thanks for listening, any advice would be appreciated. I'd even settle for a "good luck".

Fix it.

~Maggot

It's just a phase you're going through, I get the same thing sometimes and yeah it gets you down quite badly; but you gotta remember that things aren't as bad as they seem. Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and you're most likely feeling like this because those chemicals are all over the place, up one minute and down the next. This is all because you're a teenager, it's part of growing up; it's hormones.

My advice to you is just to keep your head high and whenever you feel down, think about the people who have it worse off than you; e.g. the starving children in Africa, all those orphans with AIDS etc. When you think about those, think "Ok, so if one of those people had the choice between my situation and their situation, which would they choose?" The answer being your situation. Your situation can be helped, things will get better and you've gotta have confidence in that. I've been there many times, so trust me when I say that feeling like that doesn't help at all, the best thing you can do is be happy or atleast act happy. People are more likely to talk to you and make you feel like you belong if you're happy. If you're depressed people are likely to leave you alone incase they accidentally set you off or something.

Lulz. You're seriously using the, "thur r strvin kidz in Afreeca!' bit? That's downright stupid. Just because a person's situation is better than theirs, that doesn't mean they're suddenly gonna feel so much better and love life. And just because a person's situation is better than theirs, that doesn't mean it's anywhere near good. It can still suck pretty fucking bad.

~Maggot

Strange how after providing a thoroughly useless piece of advice you feel the need to pick holes in someone else attempt at giving better and more detailed advice. So what if it's not really something that's gonna make you "love life", that's not the purpose of it. The purpose is to make them realise that no matter how bad things get, someone has it worse and if those people can survive with whatever crap their going through so can you. It wasn't meant as a definitive "do this and you'll be happier" solution, more of a step that may or may not help; everyone is different so what may help one person might not help another. And to be honest, I'd rather give some cheesey advice than non-cheesey useless advice.

I never said my advice was helpful. All I did was point out the obvious.

But the whole starving kids in Africa thing is ludicrous, and I don't mean just in this instance. I could use the exact same argument by saying there are people in even worse situations than that, therefore, by your logic, making your point about the African kids pointless and their lives considerably less awful in comparison. And then I can say: "The purpose is to make them realise that no matter how bad things get, someone has it worse and if those people can survive with whatever crap their going through so can you." It's a vicious cycle. There's always going to be someone out there who has a life that's worse than the person before them, so the 'yeah, well, you could be...' argument is applicable to every single human being on the planet.

~Maggot

You're basically going through a phase. It's normal. But it doesn't mean you have to compete with your friends. Things will work out. You have the choice to put more effort into your studies. You have the choice to go out there and date. It's all about you making the right decisions to change the flow of your life. Your friends made their decisions which landed them to where they are now. You have to start challenging yourself.Reevaluate yourself. Find your pros and cons. And start to work from there.

Good luck. =)

goodluck