Ok, so i really really really like this girl. i like her so much i think about her all the time. we are really good friends but she is dating someone and has been for more than a year. i want her to know how i feel but i dont want to harm our friendship in doing so.

please help.

Don't say anything at the moment. Could fuck up everything, and especially if she's already seeing someone.

Wait until she finishes with him, then make your move.

thats hard to do. i feel like i need to do something even if im not telling her how i feel. its insane how much i like her

Well ... let me use my boyfriend's previous situation. Before going out with me he used to like this girl whom he was friends with for a long time. He actually told her three times he liked her. All three times she rejected him and hurt his feelings a lot.

The third time he told her he liked her she had a boyfriend and well ... he was absolutely crushed.

Of course, after he was over her there was me who moved in and basically snatched him :P That was 2 years ago.

I think that maybe you should move on :X

i havent told her yet so that would not work. moving on with out even telling her is not the solution.

i have this feeling of great anguish to tell her everytime i see her. and when im not around her i think about how much i like her. the only time i dont think about her is when i play golf. but i cant do that 24/7 however much i wish i could.

Okay then ..

GO AHEAD AND TELL HER.

ive thought about that. but i dont know how i can tell her and it not make me not seem like an asshole or make it TOO akward.

Just tell her that you've liked her for a while. Don't ask her out or anything ... just tell her you like her and leave it at that.

and then just act normal? and in person right?

anyone else have advice?

First off, You should find out if she really cares for the person she is dating. If she does she might not want to know if someone else likes her, that being you. It could complicate things for her and your friendship. Play it out a little longer.

Reading throughout the thread you have made it seem like you can't hide how you feel anymore. Sit down and talk to her, face to face. No feelings get mixed up that way. Tell her you want to remain friends no matter her reaction and you absolutely understand if she can't return the feelings.. then tell her. Maybe you'll get lucky and she has a secret crush on you as well. Good luck.

ok thanks best advice so far. but still more help would be appreciated. i need options

Say to her that you don't want to mess things up between you and her or her and her boyfriend but you need to tell her something. Then tell her that you like her and you've been thinking about her alot. She most probably will act a little awkward around you but you can't really avoid that. I had the same situation about 2 years ago and I felt exactly the same, trust me you're gonna have times where you feel really crap because you want nothing more than to be with her. Could turn out differently for you but what happened with me was nothing happened, I eventually saw that nothing was going to happen and all the time I was after this girl I was missing chances with other girls. The girl I liked and I are now best mates, so perhaps that will come out of your situation. The feelings never really go though, because to be honest I still kind of like her like that.

Just letting you know what you could be in for =]

thats exactly how i feel. i hope it plays out well if thats the way i handle it.