Ok, I've been dating a girl for about a month now. We've been on a few dates here and there, but the problem is that she is so busy. We haven't hung out too much because of how many things she has to do, some of it being work.

After a few dates and the first week or so, some of her friends told me that she really likes me and wants me to ask her out - as in boyfriend/girlfriend. So I did one night at an outing, after a pause she said she doesn't know because we will be going to different colleges next year. (They are only about 30 mins away.) But she said she really liked me, we kissed for a while and then I left. She then texted me saying that she really liked me a lot and wanted to keep seeing me - and then she said I am fun to hang out with. (That's confusing.)

Sometimes she is very flirtatious and close to me, like a boyfriend/girlfriend, she is definitely not the type of girl who would kiss anyone or flirt a lot with just anyone. She gets really close at times, and other times it's like I'm the only one really there, like her mind is somewhere else - someone suggested that she is just nervous; but shes definitely not nervous other times.

The thing is, is that she acts different a lot and I haven't spent time with her recently, it seems like she's been avoiding spending time with me. I'm not invading or anything, it's been kinda casual. I've asked her to go places or hang out with me but she's always busy or says she should finish her homework, etc., but we rub each other and flirt a little still.

How should I go about this? Any advice would help. I do like her and would like to stay with her, but sometimes I am having second thoughts? I would like this to go somewhere, but am I wasting my time?

I'm not over-thinking this, I'm just over-explaining it, lol.

That is just too confusing yeah. I can totally understand you. Well, never forget that girls are difficult to understand mostly

The way you described it, I can see that she really likes you and wants to go out with you but not sure. She is afraid that the distance might spoil this. And the best thing you can do right now is to not talk about "br/gf thing". Just go along with it. She doesn't want to think about "commitment", so don't do it. If she kisses you and is really close to you then she loves you.

And if you havent much hung out recently, then maybe she really is busy or maybe she is taking some kind of break because too much is going on her mind. If you really need this girl, dont over react, just give it time and space. It will work out for you, trust me.

BTW, you are thinking about it a lot and it is definitely NATURAL, nothing wrong there

Hello, your advice was excellent and it really works for beginner also.
Thank you!