I have had the urge to get my 'love life' story out for the last week and a half, so I finally decided that I should post it. I was skeptical at first of peoples comments or understanding, but after posting for a few weeks I have gained the courage to post it.

I was in an online relationship for about two years. We broke up around two months ago, maybe. We broke up mainly because of college. He was planning on attending a college two hours away. He got a letter from the college saying that he wasn't accepted, but was still on the waiting list. If there is an opening over the summer he will get in. If he doesn't he is going to a college about 6 and a half hours away. We talked about it and he would like to continue dating me, if I was ok with it. He said we would see each other every other weekend.

I'm unsure if I could deal with a long distance relationship for another two/four years. In two years I plan on going to a college that's approximately an hour away from my current location. The college is closer to 'his' college. We'll probably only get to see each other every other weekend.

Enough with college.. and onto the story.

I was the one who asked him out. Things went good for a while. I broke up with him long enough to tell my mom about him. I never gained the courage to, so we continued to date secretly. The only family member who knew was my cousin. My cousin was literally my best friend at the time. He had helped me through so much (another long story..). Him and my cousin soon became good friends. Sadly, to good. After sometime my cousin got dragged into our problems. We began to drift apart. This greatly bugged me and still does. Carson (ex-boyfriend) and I talked about it and things only seemed to get worse. My best friend , Max, jumped in when I was being really negative about everything. He talked to Carson and my cousin. My cousin and I talked. Things didn't seem to improve though. It wasn't until Carson and my cousin agreed they wouldn't continue talking because of me. That's a heap of guilt that continuously nags at me.

Continue on with a different problem. Carson and I have been through our fair share of problems, but we always worked through them. Besides this one time, we broke up and didn't speak for a few months. I dated someone else (my friend is dating him now.). He was a really amazing guy, but I felt nothing towards him. I thought more about Carson then I did him. Him and I broke up after a little while, I wasn't depressed at all. I wanted to break up for a while, since guilt for liking Carson nagged at me.

I don't want to discontinue the relationship with Carson, but I don't know if it's going to go anywhere. Him and I haven't talked for about a week and a half (reason why I needed to get this out), because he was taking a girl that like him to the senior prom. I admit I have a bit of a jealousy problem (any tips of fixing that would be greatly appreciated..). He was relucent to not speak, but he has up until this point. We are arranged to start talking again Friday, but I'm unsure if I really want that. I don't know if this is my chance to fade away from the relationship. I really do like him. I'm just really confused on whats better for myself and him at the moment. I usually talk to close friends about my problems, but I wanted to fade away from talking about my life problems so much to them (it's been a few months talking to the same person.. gets old for them.)

Rough view of problem,

Is the constant cousin problem going to be something that will constantly jeopardize our relationship? Is it possible to date someone for four years when they live 5-6 hours away?


Sorry that this is so long, just had a lot to cover. I'll probably edit this thread to something else at a later time. I don't feel comfortable with leaving my life problems visible to the whole world forever.

-- I know a lot of people disprove of online relationships, but in the upcoming future we could meet. If we continue to talk --

I really want to answer, but I honestly don't know. I read it all, and am as confused as you are. I can understand what you're saying, but sadly I have no advice :/

Thanks for reading it atleast. Surpised that someone would spend the time to read that all.

It is quite confusing, if you love each other, the distance between you doesnt matter.

Yea, it is confusing. Seriously, do you think a relationship could withstand such distance for that period of time?

..... huh .... wow Quite a situation you got on your hand, darling. First, I'm wondering why he isn't taking you to senior prom. My school allowed taking lower classmen or people from other schools with us as a date. I'm guessing his doesn't?

My friend is in an online long distance relationship. Yeah not the best but ... they've been together for almost a year and they're MILES away. I think it all depends on how you can take the lack pf physical contact. I did try my hand a long distance relationship twice ... hated it. Longest long distance relationship was 2 1/2 months.

If you two are really determined on making it work then I say go for it, but if you're a little bit unsure you should reevaluate your relationship.

Yes! I agree with you.
Good luck!

stick it out..remember it wont always be long distance...

He never actually asked if I would like to go, but I'm over 7 hours away and my mom doesn't know that I dated him. It would be a little difficult to explain why I need a ride miles away to go to someones senior prom that I'm not actually dating. I'm not even sure if I would have been able to attend it if I had found a way there. The school I'm currently attending doesn't let certain grade levels attend, one of them being mine. Thanks for replying.


Dfnty, What do you agree with?

Also, thanks Micro.

-Note: Not very good with quotes, only know how to quote one person per post.

That really bites :/ Like .... very much so. Maybe perhaps you should also tell your parents you're dating him. Or would they go ballistic and shit bricks if they found out you were dating?

I have really considered telling her, but I have never managed to tell her. She does know of his existence though and some random facts about him. She doesn't approve of online relationships, I know that much. She does approve of dating someone that you talked to online after you met though. We had a talk about that once. We also had a discussion on how to go about meeting someone from the internet. She just wants me to inform her before hand, instead of sneaking to do it. That's 100% understandable.

Ah yes, that is understandable. Hmm well, what my mom did when I went to meet someone I originally met online my mom asked to come with me. So, maybe if you could arrange with your boyfriend and your mom a time when all three of you could sit down.

If you haven't yet anyways lol ...

We were originally planning on it being over the summer this year, but the final decision is up to me. Problem is, I'm still not sure if I just want to fade away from the relationship. We did talk yesterday though. I promised him I would get on aim and talk to him, since it was his last day of high school and I wanted to congratulate him. The whole conversation felt weird to me. Problem would be eliminated if he just got into the close college. <.< >.>