-warning this is going to be long-

Yesterday something hit me like a ton of breaks. I was hanging out with my boyfriend and suddenly realized that I wasn't having fun. He was irritating me. After observing our entire relationship I realize there a lot of things about him that get on my nerves, and these things sometimes keep me from enjoying his company. The question is, are these things enough of a reason to break up?
I told him what was bothering me. I told him I was considering if it would be better if we didn't see each other anymore. He seems absolutely sure that his life would be way worse without me. I suggested taking a break from the relationship and he said he couldn't do that. He said he wants to be in a relationship and I'm the only one he wants. =(

The serious problem here is, I have no means by which to judge if it's time to break up. I'm thinking about my summer (which just started) and if I'd rather spend it with just my friends. I don't want to have to worry if I'm going to enjoy myself when I'm around him. I feel like if you are truly right for someone you should enjoy their company all the time.
but on the other hand, we've had a lot of fun. There have been days when hanging out with him is fantastic. And in the past, when I was having trouble with my friends, there were times when I was fully ready to choose him over my friends, if I HAD to make the choice.

So here I am. SOO confused out of my mind I'm freaking out. This all hit me yesterday it seems. The weekend before I was up north and we called each other every night, I always enjoyed the call and got off the phone thinking how great it was.

My mom seems to think that I too often let my own bad mood ruin our time together. But I don't know if that's it.

please somone help me figure this out. I'm so so so lost.

Don't let one bad day ruin everything you had or ever could have. Best advice i can give, from personal experience.

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Yeah I agree with that totally. The thing is just that it's happened before.
Our relationship is so bipolar. One day I'll love him and want to spend the whole day with him, and the next he's irritating me and I'd rather be alone or with someone else.
that's why this is so confusing...

Hmm i think you should laugh it off and forget his bad aspects, obviously you need to ask yourself do you LOVE him, its a strong word i know but im sure you will find if you love him the relationship will be ok but if you just like him, well you want to lead him on too long he seems pretty involved with you. Meh.. its your decision hope my advise helped.

Just because he is your boyfriend doesn't mean you have to spend every minute of every day with him. There's no shame in wanting to hang out without someone else for a bit

I wouldn't say go as far as taking a break completely from him, but maybe just 1-2 days where maybe you don't hang out together alone, give you both time to miss each other.

Everybody has their faults, some are easily rectified, other's aren't. But you will both have to work together to improve things. Don't make it sound like your.. say.. demanding that he must change. Offer him support etc

This is my first time giving advice.. feels weird :eek:

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Everyone needs personal space, but what exactly bothers you about him?

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i told a friend of mine who was having the same problem to do what is best for you wheather you stay with him or not, but if you don't feel like the relationship will go on to the next level than think about it.