Hi guys. I'm new to the forum and this is my first post. i am 15, fairly athletic, but am not into the whole dating relationship thing like my friends. the problem is that I don't know where to start and I get shy around girls. I know that I should talk it out with my friends but sometimes its harder because I know them well and would be embarrassed . what should I do?

First of all, welcome to the forum. Secondly, the shyness is generally only applicable for the first girlfriend experience - after that, your self-confidence should shoot through the roof and eventually you'll be flirting away with ease. However, you first need to find a girl. Are there any girls in your school that you like?

Hi, I'm new, as well, but welcome aboard anyway.

First of all, it's normal to be shy. Everyone is shy once in a while, no matter how experienced they may be or how confident they may seem--and if you're just now getting into dating, it is bound to be a common feeling. But it isn't a problem. A lack in self-confidence, however, is a problem. While it is completely natural to need to feel validated--we all need to feel that way--girls aren't so much into guys who obviously have no confidence in themselves. It's sort of like dating a girl.

The first thing you must do is learn to just be yourself, and be that way around EVERYONE. Do not be afraid to speak your mind, to discuss things that you like, to express your opinions. If you're afraid they'll sound stupid or nerdy or whatever else, DON'T. You won't get far by suppressing your true feelings. In the end, you'll want a girl who is on a similar level that you are on, and you'll find her just by being you.

Next, as Ender said, look for a girl.

yeah, i am they same way as you...

im having a hard time overcoming my problem, but im trying. good luck to you. sorry i couldn't be much of a help

Well if you want a girlfriend, you'll have to get over your shyness.
Just talk to girls how you would to any of your other friends.

But i doesn't sound like your very keen to get a girlfriend, if that's the case, don't get a girlfriend just cos all your friends are doing it.
(:

You just described me, and my situation.

School just ended, and what should I do to get the girls?

No, that's not the case. It's just embarrasing when my friends are all at parties with girlfriends or whatever and I don't know what to...do...

aww you're ssweet x

i finnk someone has alreaddee said wat i was gonna say but don treat them as gfs treat them as frends

those are the best relationships ive had wif guys anyway

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it depends on what sort of relationship you want i guess

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you're talking to me (kind of ) and im a girl so youu must be ablee to do it x

luv summer x

kk. Thanks.
The problem is that it's easy over the internet, much harder in real life...

So at parties then?

Are you feeling left out?

Just go up and talk to girls, introduce yourself, if you get shut down, just laugh it off.

Wow.Easy for you to say...You make it sound so easy...that's what I don't get...That's the problem...

So what is it that you find hard?
Talking to a person that you've never met before, or just girls in general?

it's just shyness. i cant believe that you dont know what i mean...

talk about sumfing you are both interested in

eg if she likes pie
im sure you could talk about that for ages

lol xx

actualee i think i do know what you mean
there is this one person
who i am a bit scared / shy off
and i try to say sumthin
but nuffink will come out of my mouth
is that what youu mean??