Hey my name is Aly. I was looking around your site and found that everyone here was very nice and i tought you guys might be able to help me with a situation i am currently in.

Note: I am a horrible speller and this might get lenghty

Okay i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year now. I met him at the end of freshmen year and i will be a junior next school year.

the deal is that he is my first true love, and boyfriend in general. The thing is that i know i love him and i couldnt love anyone eles like i love him, but, i feel like i just need a break to either maybe date other guys just to make sure hes the someone i want to continue dating, and i need to get my life reorginized. That and i think i say hes the only one i will ever love because i have never had the chance to love someone eles.

Ever since i started dating him my life has been fliped upside down.
-My grades have down down a lot from As&Bs to Bs&Cs
-Im beggening to neglect my family
-im never home really any more
-I never have any alone time because he constinly wants to hang out and be with me)
-and my parents have started yelling at me a lot more then they use to

Okay heres were i need the help....
I want to ask him to take a break but there are many speed bumps:
1. everyone calls us the perfect cuple, and ive even asked my friend what they would think if we broke up... they all sad "that would be like the world coming to an end" or they were just like "whatt... its never gunna happen"
2. all my friends i have now were all his friend b4 me... and i mean ALL so i would have so support
3. he has told me multipul times that i saved his life and that if i were for somereason taken out of his life he would kill hime self
( and i wouldnt doubt that because b4 he met me he attemppted suicide a few times and has been in a rehab once....)
so in a way i feel guilted into staying with him....

Ive tried doing this once before, he started crying begging me to stay becuse he needed me and that he couldnt live with out me in his life.
That and i would feeel SO bad if anything bad happened to him. I dont want him to hurt himself because i truly care for him...

i dont know what to do... Do i stay with him and just live with maybe not dating anyone eles untill he brakes it off (wich will be never.... Hes even tried to propose to me and talks abotu marrage and kids, which i dont mind because i can see my self marring him and be happy but i just want a lil break)

or

do i ask for the break and hope nothing bad will happen (which is unlikely cuz i know he would go home and start cutting again that very day)

(yes i know hes a little messed up, but thats not y i want the brak)

okkkk

welll if you really love him then i think for both of your sakes you should stay together, because i think there willl be A lot more heartbreak apart (for the both o you)

BUT you should ask him if you can have Study groups? at your parents house.
Because then you can get your grades up, see them more, and have them shout at you less, and you get see them. Maybe you can ask your family to join your study group to help you an get to know your bf better.

But (no offence) I think your boyfriend needs to find another way to cope with pressure, because you cannot live your life being scared he is going to commit suicide. eg Maybe punching the punch bag at he gym?

if he really loves you, you should talk this throught with him and if he really loves you he would do this for you but you have to make it clear how much you love him.

goood luck hun xxxxxxxxxxx

ps if you need any more help just message me x

ok so this is kind of complicated. i think he has some issues to work out, and your relationship wont stay completely healthy if this continues. you need to have a good talk to him, and like the person above me said, "if he really loves you, you should talk this throught with him and if he really loves you he would do this for you but you have to make it clear how much you love him."