Hi everybody, this will be my first post here, but I have been reading around for a while.

Well, I have had a crush on a lovely girl for a while. Yesterday a me and a group of friends went to see a movie. The group included my crush another guy friend and a lady friend (we'll nickname her Renee). We seen the movie and had a great time, I dropped all my friends off and went home.
I finally decided to ask out my crush out later that night, so I called her up. She said she really likes me too, but we have a problem with our friend Renee. Renee has liked me for a while now, I now it, a lot of people know it. She is a great friend to me and my crush, but I have had no interest in dating her. We hang out all the time though. So by me going out with my crush it would possibly ruin both of our friendship especially my crush's.
So before me and my crush go on a date we need to make sure Renee would be ok with it. So I'm going to talk to her, but none of us have any idea what to say. So I would love some advise.

Thanks much!

my advice is that you talk to the girl that has the crush on you and tell her that you have no interest in dating her and that you like this other girl ans then go out with the other one.

Ya, I figure that's what I will say to her, but don't know how to say it, etc...

And Renee has never really had a real boyfriend, and I would have to say is almost on the brink of obsession with me.

tell renee that you dont have any feelings for her. but tell her that it was nice that she liked you, but you are not the right guy for her and her guy is out there

Yeah what they said. Just tell her you've liked her friend for a long time and that you have no feelings for her in that way and that you just want to stay friends.

Also hook Renee up with someone else.

I would say something like "look, i know how you feel about me"...if you start with something like that, then your both on the same level, and theres no tiptoing around the situation. When she opens up to you, try not to feel too bad for this girl, if you start sympathizing with her, you might say or do something you will regret.

Just get everything out in the open and tell her you still want to be awesome friends!!

Good luck my friend

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Thanks. I talked to her today and made sure I said she was probably one of my best friends, but I have no feelings for her. She took it really good.

Now onto the fun part!

You know, Renee is your friend and she should really respect your decision. I don't think you should put your relationship on hold just to make sure Renee is okay with it. She should understand your feelings for someone else.

I have been in her situation and yeah it sucks, but if you truly care about someone and are good friends with them you have to get over it in order for them to be happy.

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I totally agree with Angelwings. While she may be a friend, you don't 'owe' her an explanation about you and your crush. I think its nice you told her, but you aren't obligated to get her 'approval' for any relationship that you have in the future.

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Ya, I see what you mean. It was a more so it doesn't ruin my crush's and Renee's friendship and me and Renee's friendship. Less of the approval thing. More of letting her know I'm not interested in her and more interested in her friend without being a jerk.

I would say that your crush AND Renee have a great friend in you.

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basically you have to tell renee how you feel, and hopefully she understands.