Alone time

RollinRightInuit · 06-29-2008, 06:37 AM

Just need to rant really, I think. Cos I know I'm just paranoid and he does love me, but I've no-one else to talk to right now so I need to just get it all outof my system!

Anyhoo, yeah, I was in Italy for 3 weeks just there and I didn't manage to get any alone time with my bf before, just group stuff, so we haven't been alone since the 10th of May. And I saw him the day I got back, but only in the mosh pit of a Linkin Park concert so we couldn't talk. I felt like he was ignoring me for a bit, like I just expected it to be more magical or something seeing each other forthe first time in 3 weeks. And I asked him to the cinema with some friends the next day but he was working so couldn't come. And then I went to England for a couple of days. And he's had no credit the entire time I've been home, so I didn't expect to hear from him over there, buthe actually did text me, sayin "hey, can we go into town on sun, just the 2 of us?" So I was all uber happy cos I'd get a whole day with him (and tis our 3 month anniversary, but I know he didn't know that, he's got the memory of a goldfish). Anyhoo, yesterday I was goin to a protest that he was at too so I was like yay get to see him =) But he barely talked to me there, and then he left as soon as it was over because he was tired?? So I didn't even get to like talk to him after. And I kinda got the feeling he was angry at me, but I hadn't gotten much sleep the night before so I figured I was just being paranoid, and my friend was like "at least you have sunday" and I was like yeah.

But now he's just texted me to say his friend's gonna come to town with us on sunday! Like wtf? Twas gonna be my first time alone with him in a month and a half! And on our anniversary! I haven't even held his hand in almost a month! I'm actually so upset! And I don' think he gets it at all! Ugh, why are guys so annoying?

The Wolf · 06-29-2008, 06:58 AM

You should really talk to him about this. It isn't going to get better if you don't address the problem directly. You said it's been three months dating, right? Maybe, he is just a bit afraid to be alone. Was he shy when you two were alone last? When you are around other people there is less to worry about. I wouldn't think to much about it, but I would talk to him just to make sure.

RollinRightInuit · 06-29-2008, 07:10 AM

No, he's normally grand. We were best friends for over a year before we started goin' out! And like he even said in the text "just the 2 of us" so I dunno what changed!

The Wolf · 06-29-2008, 07:21 AM

I don't really know what to tell you, besides that you need to talk to him.

RollinRightInuit · 06-29-2008, 07:45 AM

Yeah, thanks. I'm probably just completely over-reacting.

Trogdor_74 · 06-29-2008, 10:21 PM

Yeah you should talk to him directly
My girlfriend thought I wasn't talking to her enough
So she told me
Now it's better

Ejayrazz · 06-30-2008, 12:59 AM

Talk to him. Show him that you care about this, it might be what he needs to see.

Sportfan3 · 06-30-2008, 01:30 AM

ya i struggled with the same problem. me and my girlfriend wouldnt talk in public places or around other people for some reason but alone we were great. you just gotta talk to him and tell him whats up and see if he is willing to change it

idk2008 · 06-30-2008, 01:42 AM

Life gets 'busy' for all of us, but sometimes the one we love needs to tell us to slow down and get back into the sync of every day living. Sounds like it has just been a very hectic summer for both of you. Maybe the two of you need to go on a date again. Invite him over and talk to him. Good luck

RollinRightInuit · 06-30-2008, 03:08 AM

No, guess you should always trust your gut feeling. He broke up with me this afternoon

It was always too good to be true I guess. I love him so much

Ejayrazz · 06-30-2008, 03:50 AM

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Originally Posted by RollinRightInuit

No, guess you should always trust your gut feeling. He broke up with me this afternoon

It was always too good to be true I guess. I love him so much

What was his reasoning?

RollinRightInuit · 06-30-2008, 04:00 AM

His "reasoning" involved just about ever cheesey break-up line you can think of.
"I think we were better off as friends"
"I'm just not ready for a relationship at the moment"
"It's not you, it's me"
"We should just be friends for now"
"I need some time"
"I've a lot going on right now and I just can't deal with having a girlfriend"
etc.

I asked him bout that last one there and said since we're "still friends" he can tell me what's going on but he just went "I don't tell my friends everything!"
So basically he didn't give me a reason =(

Neal · 06-30-2008, 01:04 PM

So are you going to give up?

RollinRightInuit · 06-30-2008, 06:41 PM

I don't know =( I don't want to, but I don't want to be crazy stalker girl either. And like he was one of my best friends too but now I keep feeling I can't trust him anymore and it sucks =(
And it's horrible timing cos his birthday's coming up and we got him a big group present that we knew he'd love, but it's got a lot of kind of sentimental value so he might just hate it now but it cost €300 and we got his brother (they're twins) somethin of roughly the same value and it's a bit late to find something else now.

Neal · 07-01-2008, 12:55 AM

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Originally Posted by RollinRightInuit

I don't want to,

Then don't give up.

Now that you're both single, you can take the time to seduce him back.

Maybe you don't know much about being a girl but I imagine you can offer him sex (assuming it's not out of the question).

Or something like this.

"Hey baby, I'm going to take a shower now. Sex in bed in 20 minutes!"

Then show up in something sexy.

If he doesn't show up, he's gay, or he's shy.

Suppose for example, he was a real shy guy. To stare at you or anything.