I'm super jealous. I hate it when my boyfriend breathes in the direction of another woman. To make matters worse, my boyfriend LOVES women. he's constantly checking out every girl he sees and has already told me he wants a threesome (which I want too, but I know I'd end up crying afterward.) Whenever he watches porn or looks at another girl, it kills me. It makes me feel like I'm not enough, like if I were thinner or prettier he wouldn't constantly be looking at other women. I'm constantly afraid he's going to cheat on me, even though he has never done anything in our 3 years together to give me a reason not to trust him (this might just be because my ex cheated on me multiple times..) I've talked to him about this before, and he just apologized and said he feels like a dick head because he can't help that he's a perv. He told me he thinks I'm the best thing in the world, but I just don't believe him. I don't know what to do to stop being so damn jealous and insecure.

hey, well i think 3 years of a relation is long enough to build up a level of trust right? If you've been dating him for 3 years, theres no doubt you've had your ups and downs, but I'm sure through it all, you've gained each other's trust right? Well when he tell you yours the best thing in the world, hun, believe him. I'm a guy and I can see why he would sometimes glance at others girls...we can't help it. But you have to understand that just because he looks, doesnt mean he wants them more then you, or will cheat on you. You can't expect him to be a robot and not look at any other girl again. Als how old are you? Feeling so jealous, no matter how long u've been dating, would also have to do with all the hormones in your body. Overtime your jealousy will faid, and you'll realize that he loves you with all his heart, no matter how many girls he looks at. Don't worry about changing yourself to suit his liking, you ARE who he likes, from day 1 you were.

Hope I helped

It's not a once in a while thing. It's a constant and continuous thing. All he ever fucking does is fucking stare at chicks and I'm fucking tired of it. It's caused hell for me that he doesn't even know about. I'm bulimic because of him. I'm afraid to ever have a baby because I know I'll get fat and he'll never want to look at me again. i know for a fact he thinks about fucking other girls, he's said so (that's why he wants a threesome.) It makes me hate him sometimes. I love him to death, I really would die for him. but this makes me hate him sometimes.

Ask him to help you. Read what you wrote, he should understand, you compromised this message very nicely. You know he wont cheat on you, yet you still are concerned, merely giving you advice and stating to tell yourself he wont cheat on you will predominantly not work, as I am sure you have already attempted it and continue to do so. This is something only he himself can probably fix, as well as you, he may do things which delude your mind into thinking he'll cheat on you.

He needs to stop talking about women and checking them out in front of you, that is disrespectful. You need to sit him down and let him know what he does wrong and why it pisses you off. He needs to put in an effort too, or nothing will change.

He doesn't really stare at them right in front of me, I just notice even when he is being discreet. He actually doesn't talk about them either, I ask. If I don't ask, I'll think the worst possible thing and it'll drive me nuts. I sound like a nut..

I agree, let him read this and he might start to see things in a new light.

Just because you're his girlfriend doesn't mean you will let him drool over every other woman who looks ok and stay around.

xx

Suppose you were to take a step smarter and start ignoring him. That is, only talk to him when he talks to you 1st. In that case, he may feel he lost you. Do you think this will in any way make him want to try to win you back?

Or what if you wanted to start a no-other-women policy with him?

Since a man only has 1 penis, I don't see how a threesome works. Or vice versa.

What? We're still dating...... and what would this policy consist of??

You've never seen a threesome in porn???

So? Talk to him if he talks to you. Reply to him on the phone only if he calls you. Go out on dates with him if he only asks you out on dates.

Sooner or later he'll figure out something's up.

That he only loves you? That he doesn't try to do threesomes?

You haven't found a flaw in my argument. You can't disagree with me if you didn't find any mistakes on what I said.

I'll say it again. Since a man only has 1 penis, I don't see how a threesome works. Or vice versa.

If you don't want to do it or are against it, don't do it.

No. I don't see how 1 penis can go to 2 vaginas, but it is at least vaguely possible for 2 penises to go to 1 vagina.

Neal C.

I would hate to be the girl that takes your virginity. You'd leave all the work up to the dick? Shame on you.

OMG. Go watch some porn buddy. The guy doesn't fuck the chicks at the exact same time. They take turns.

I'll tell you i'm just like him and i'm a girl. I never cheat on my now ex boyfriend's and i never will. But i just can't help but check out other guys, and sometimes i would flirt, i just couldn't help it. Yet im a super jealous girl TOO. Sometimes me and my boyfriend would flirt right in front of eachother on purpose to see who would get mad the most. What im trying to say is that you can't help but get jealous, it's an feeling you just can't get rid of. The only thing i can say is trust him, and listen to both your mind and heart.

well said. "The only thing i can say is trust him, and listen to both your mind and heart."

thank you