How does everyone feel about cheating?

Have you ever been cheated on?

Do you believe, like I, that both parties had equal say in it's beginning?

Did you take this said cheater "back"?

I think it's highly disrespectful, to say the least.
Yes.Um, no. That's stupid as all humanity.I would've.

~Maggot

Ive been cheated on before. To be honest, i think its the worst thing you can possibly do to someone in a relationship.

Like, its bad to leave them for no reason, but at least they arent getting with anyone else, with cheating its like, ending the relationship on the spot and ALREADY getting with another person. Its rude and morally wrong!!

I hate it!

You cheat once, I leave you, even if I am in love. Yes, I was cheated on after 19 months, I was madly in love, she came back crying to me, I left her. She knew it was wrong, but did it anyways.

That is too big of a mistake, if I can't trust my girlfriend to make rational decisions, there will be trust issues, trust issues will break and decapitate any relationship.

I agree with Ejay, cheating is never to be forgiven.

So, you're saying, if you had a friend who your boyfriend cheated on you with, you wouldn't be the least bit mad at her?


You must be a better person than I.

What if you were married?


I've been cheated on, and I didn't leave him. I didn't have the heart. And I truly believe that if you love one another enough, any issue can be overcome.

I'm sorry, Goddess, I think I worded that wrong, and you thought I meant, both parties in the relationship itself.

I don't think the member being cheated on in any way had an equal part in cheating.

And I can say if you truly love someone, you wont be stupid enough to make THAT big of a mistake.

Marriage is the same, I would leave them.

I respect your opinion, I respect you didn't leave him because you didn't have the heart, but he had the heart to put his penis in another woman. Or kiss them, or whatever he did.

It isn't hard to control yourself and to say "NO, I am in love, because if you truly care for someone, you would never betray them like this.

Good point.

Obviously the cheater does not love the person they cheated on, or they would not have cheated. Cheating is disgusting and wrong. if you're going to cheat on a person, why not just leave them? I've been cheated on before and it's the worst thing in the world. It's wrong. you cheat and I leave.

I'm going to have to disagree. My ex cheated on me, and I was mad at him, and he hated himself, but I know he loved me when he did it. Hell, he cried afterwards, and he didn't even cry when his dad died. And I understand why he did it, too. You wanna know why? Because he was depressed. So much so, he wanted to die. And he doesn't know how to handle it. It's well-known that people turn to whatever they can to treat depression - drugs, drinking, sex, etc. He used all three. As soon as he did it, he told me and broke up with me because he knew he'd fucked up. Cheating isn't always a simple 'do it or don't' situation. Is it sometimes? Yes, of course. But not always.Again, you lack an understanding of people and their inability to think rationally under certain emotional conditions. I apologise, I misunderstood.

~Maggot

Nah, I'm sorry for wording it weird.

And I agree.
I didn't break up with my boyfriend because, I knew, I could tell, he felt so fucking terrible for it.

He also lost his dad a couple years ago, and the second he told me "I'd rather have you stay in my life, than have my dad back." I knew it was a mistake, not something he did with the intentions of hurting me. And he honestly was sorry.

And as much as I hate this excuse, I'm starting to see more and more through a man's perspective when the sex issue comes up.

Women, or least a lot, associate sex with love.
Men, or at least the ones I know, do not. Sex is something very physical to them, and, as I've heard from a lot of the guys I know, they'd love to have a relationship where, they loved and stayed with one girl, but were allowed sex with other girls that they want nothing more than sex with.

Yeah, to me, how he felt afterwards was the most important part. I mean, if he'd done it over and over again and then tried to say he felt bad, no, I wouldn't buy it. But that's not comparable to when someone makes a mistake, owns up to it, and feels so massively bad for it.

~Maggot

And this is where we will agree. He deserved to feel like an asshole, because he was for what he did. It comes down to excuses - what he did was wrong, regardless. Cheating is always wrong, end of story, however in some cases I guess the circumstances are different, but cheating is cheating in my book. When shit hits the fan, we can't go acting irrational every time, we need to bulk up and face it instead of resorting to sex and drugs.

Although I disagree, I understand and respect your opinion, however cheating is a "do or don't"...It is a "dont"...in all cases.

And me 'lacking the ability to understand actions in certain emotional situations"..

Oh please, last thing I need is for someone to preach. Just because he resorted to cheating on you doesn't make it right, whether it is forgivable is your own decision to make, but if he is going to resort to unethical acts when in emotional distress you have a long road ahead of you. Cheating is cheating and it is wrong in nearly, if not all, cases, just some cases aren't nearly as bad as others.