What do you do to get over someone?

trackattack · 07-02-2008, 11:51 PM

Seriously if it works post it! I'm desperate

GemmaBabyxox · 07-03-2008, 12:49 AM

Well generally I just carry on with my life, go out with my friends, go to clubs, do all the things I missed out on whilst I was with the person. Then I put all the memories like photos and stuff in a box in the back of my wardrobe (never throw them away, you'll regret it). Then all you can do is try and move on, meet some new lads. Have fun and make the most of being single, after a while you start to enoy it. Just think about what you enjoy about it (: Hope this helps! xxxx

woodz · 07-03-2008, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by GemmaBabyxox

Well generally I just carry on with my life, go out with my friends, go to clubs, do all the things I missed out on whilst I was with the person. Then I put all the memories like photos and stuff in a box in the back of my wardrobe (never throw them away, you'll regret it). Then all you can do is try and move on, meet some new lads. Have fun and make the most of being single, after a while you start to enoy it. Just think about what you enjoy about it (: Hope this helps! xxxx

hell yea man. might i suggest listenin to some love songs while doin it like
chris brown, r-kelly, the dream. or if ur into rock ur favorite love songs by them. itl help you go through all the memories you had and it will also help you get over it.

last but not least... ur single now. live it up

DamnImGood · 07-03-2008, 09:32 PM

Pretend they don't exist.

JupiterAlien · 07-04-2008, 01:29 AM

Well, you shouldn't pretend they don't exist. I've dated quite a few in the past, and I still really good friends with most of my ex's, if not all of them.

I'm not saying to go and be their friend automatically. Give it time, and like GemmaBabyxox said, do all the things with your friends that you missed out on, and keep a box of memories.

When and if you feel you're ready and the both of you are willing, try to be friends again, maybe?

xXx Scars xXx · 07-04-2008, 01:37 AM

Ive got the exact same problem as you trackattack, i went out with my best friend for 2 yrs and we have been broken up for 2 years but I still cant get over them. I havent dated since and am depressed every since.

DamnImGood · 07-04-2008, 11:42 PM

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Originally Posted by JupiterAlien

Well, you shouldn't pretend they don't exist. I've dated quite a few in the past, and I still really good friends with most of my ex's, if not all of them.

I didn't say do it forever, but it has certainly helped me get over the people that were in my lives so much. And I'm friends with all my exes, to some degree or another, and one of them is even one of my best friends. Once I realized I could live without them, I started talking to them again and became friends. Some took longer than others, it all depends on the circumstances.

WSS?? · 07-05-2008, 03:19 AM

umm... i guess you just live your life as best you can...
nd eventually you move on with your life...

armyforthebroken · 07-05-2008, 06:38 AM

Find someone else that's right for you.

It depends on what type you're looking for.

Ms.Chocolat · 07-06-2008, 05:38 AM

Interesting question. I don't really have much experience of getting over someone. I really just buried my feelings and fell in love with the same guy again.

I guess going out to do other things would help. Take a break from relationships for a while. You know, stay single for a bit. Spend some time lost with friends, and I'm sure you'll find someone soon enough. =]

christine_ · 07-06-2008, 05:42 AM

block them out completely. stop talking to them, going to thier myspace, facebook, everything.

or

find someone else. when i find someone else i totally forget about the other person

or

coming to a realization that it's life, and just accept it.

Edge · 07-06-2008, 06:47 AM

I can't say I agree with you, but it's only an opinion, whatever works for you. I don't think it's the smartest idea in the world to block them out, some people are really shallow to want to hate a person they once loved just because things didn't work out like planned.

I can't say I hate any of my ex's and I'm friends with most of them, but really the only thing you can do to get over the feelings is just give it time.

Doings things like pretending they're not there, ignoring them, getting rid of material items is just trying to fill the hole faster, you have to accept the terms of reality. The only thing that can fill that hole is time.

DamnImGood · 07-06-2008, 12:08 PM

Blocking someone out != hate.

christine_ · 07-06-2008, 09:23 PM

err, well, i took this as a personal question. So. blocking them out to me, is the last resort. First would be to accept things as they are and move on, and if i can't do that and it really getting me down, then i have to block them out totally.

ishinebrighterr · 07-14-2008, 02:55 PM

I always feel like music helps me when I need to get over someone. Go in your room, blast music, and sing. Also, writing. Writing helps more than youd ever realize. Keep a journal, or use an online site (like xanga). You can keep it private if you dont want anyone else to read it, or only allow friends to have access to it.
You also need to get out there and enjoy life. Hang out with your friends or even family. Get a job. Take a walk.
Time heals all wounds. You will be okay, I promise =]