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Old 07-14-2008, 02:26 PM   #1
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I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

Last month was me and my boyfriend's 2nd year anniversary. A week before the exact date I was thinking on whether or not to make an occasion out of it, but was a little unsure as due to certain issues we weren't able to celebrate our 1st year last year. So I thought "If he says anything about it, then yeah why not do something but if he doesnt' then let's not"

So the day came ... and went and now one month later my boyfriend called me up because we were planning to hang out together some time that week and during the conversation he fell silent. Next thing you know I hear

"I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry. I just realized something!"
"What?"
"Our anniversary was last month ... Oh god, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to forget"
"It's okay ... really, don't worry about it"

I didn't get mad at him or anything. Actually I was laughing so hard when he apologized because it was so random when he brought it up. We were talking about Ragnarok Online when he stopped and said that so ... it was pretty random.

When I told this to my friend she said 'what an asshole! Forgetting it like that! You should be mad at him and tell him how upset it makes you to have him forget!' but it doesn't make me upset. Actually, I was very amused at the time.

So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.
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Old 07-14-2008, 02:32 PM   #2
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

Your friend isn't a part of your relationship, so she has no say in how you should feel about the situation. If you aren't upset, that's fine. Just means that you are a very understanding girlfriend =] And besides, you didn't bring it up either so for all he knows you forgot too! Not a big deal.
I think you should celebrate. Nothing fancy, maybe even just a movie or something.
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Your friend isn't a part of your relationship, so she has no say in how you should feel about the situation.
True, her friend might not be apart of the relationship, but it's not rare for friends to give their opinion on certain matters. Everyone is free to that.

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So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.
That's totally up to you, really every day is a celebration just for the fact that it's turned out to be a wonderful relationship, assuming that due to the fact that you two have been together for so long.

In all honesty I don't think it matters whether you do or not, you're both happy right now, that's what matters.
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Old 07-14-2008, 08:29 PM   #4
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

Hey, there's nothing wrong about not being mad at it, I personally consider it awesome. Your friend like the posters above me said, has no say in how you should feel.
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Old 07-14-2008, 09:19 PM   #5
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

You both decide what is important in your relationship. If you are not upset about it, then it is not a big deal. I wouldn't necessarily have an anniversary celebration, just be grateful that your relationship has lasted this long and is still going well. Enjoy every day of it.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

If you're not bothered then there's no reason why you should unless it'd make your boyfriend feel better.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

It doesn't matter if one or both of you forgot it. It';s nice to be able to celebrate those miletones, but one day shouldnt mean more than the rest of your realtionship toegther, if I was you, I'd just use it as an excuse to go out for a nice meal or something together.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

In answer to your question whether or not you should celebrate it, if you want to and your boyfriend wants to you should. It shouldn't matter that it's a month late.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

Do what you like... If you wern't that bothered about celebrating it origionally, then don't.
And don't feel you should be upset- just because thats how a friend would react doesn't mean it's how you had to react.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

If you and your boyfriend want to celebrate, then go for it.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

People actually keep track of the date in which they got in a relationship?

So if I got a girlfriend, then a year later exactly, I should be all "zomg anniversary."

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When I told this to my friend she said 'what an asshole! Forgetting it like that! You should be mad at him and tell him how upset it makes you to have him forget!' but it doesn't make me upset. Actually, I was very amused at the time.

So, this brings up a question. Should we celebrate it anyways even though it's like ... a month late? I don't really care if we do or don't but ... gee if we do decide to I'm totally stuck on what to do.
Several points.

-Your friend isn't part of your relationship so, you don't need her to think and have opinions for you.

-Is it always the guy's duty to bring up anniversaries? If it isn't, and neither of you bring it up, then both of you are equally at fault.

-Whether you celebrate this "anniversary" a month later is really between you and your boyfriend, and not us.

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People actually keep track of the date in which they got in a relationship?
You are one of the most sheltered and inexperienced people I have ever encountered.
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Re: I was told I should be upset (but I'm not ...)

I've also been told I should be upset, tons of times. Not like I'm gonna listen to someone telling me to get down though

I'm never upset, seriously, I'm happy, constantly, never been depressed.

Worst I get is pissed off, and then it's bad
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Um. Ask him if he wants to or not?

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