Ok so im not sure if anyone remembers my particular situation so heres a link to my previous post/story:teenhut.net/dating-relationships/35210-looking-some-advice.html#post974418

But it has not really improved, we have tried the taking some time apart thing and it may have even worsened. I feel like I am riding a roller coaster and I have extremely happy times and every thing is great but then it all goes down hill in an instant and its same the same fights over and over again.

I feel like it would be better to just be friends and stop all of the fighting and stress, but i do not know how to tell her because I do still care about her and do not want to hurt her, but i feel like it will hurt her very badly because she is always talking about our future together and how it will be so great, which is another problem entirely because she cant enjoy the present and the time we are having now, and i feel like she will be very disappointed. I know I should do what will make me happy and that I should not stay in the relationship just to make her happy or anything because that is not right or healthy but I just do not know what to say to her, and frankly I am kind of scared to. Ive only really had one other relationship and that ended on mutual terms so im not really to knowledgeable on this so any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks a lot guys for all of your help...

Did you know you could have instead, replied to your own previous thread?

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Hey there,

I wasn't familiar about this story so I had to read both this topic and the other one too, but I have the best advice i can give for you.

I know how this feels, believe me I've been through this so many times and it doens't help when your partner almost makes you feel guilty for your decissions... But all that I can say is that you need to do what is right for you, regardless of how much you think you're going to hurt her.

If you continue with the relationship and you're not happy, then in the endyou're going to hurt her further and yourself terribly. You said the break thing didn't work? Maybe because you and her both knew that it would end and you would get back together?

I personally would tell her that you need a clean break... No communication to see how you both feel and to do your own thing for a while. This wil give you both a clear head of what exactly you want and if the relationship you had was giving it to you. To me she's probably just nervous that you'll find someone else and leave her in the heart break... This is where reassurance comes in and if you're not giving it to her then she'll continue to think it.

I hope it goes well and if you need anymore help, don't hesiate to PM me.

Chin up tiger.
x_<3

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