So basically I have liked this guy for over a year now but he moved away at the beginning of the school year.
He came back for the holidays and we were going to hang out. We never actually did because he made me wait forever. He called me that night to apologize but I was so out of words because I was so mad, that I didnt really respond. He hasnt tired talking to me since then and I dont plan on talking to him.
I just want to get over him and forget about him but I cant do that. Im not even sure why it is that I like him because he has hurt me so many times in the past.
Any advice on how to get over him?! Please, it would help tremendoulsy.

Focus on going out and starting clubs etc, and try to take your mind off him - it will only make things worse.

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Hi, It's really hard to get over a guy, The best thing to do is take up a Long term, [Well if you want to make it a ] hobby. Spend time with your family. I would loose contact him as well til your ready to be ok with the fact that you and him wont be together right now. [ I wont say never because you never know]


Like right now I'm crushing on a guy name Chris, (different one everyone) long story short him and I were in this program together and I developed a crush, we just started talking again and I dunno if he wants to be with me he talks about friends with benfits but I'm not sure if it's what I want. The best thing to do is take a hobby, spend time with family. Music. Write a journal expressing all your feelings out and pace yourself. Right now to get over my Chris problem I write.

My music suggestion to get over the ex.
All American Rejects, Ingrid Michaelson, Paramore. What I listen to. Maybe someone else will have a better one.

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Getting over someone takes time and patience with yourself. It won't happen over night. Surround yourself with things you enjoy doing. Spend time with your friends and family. Keep yourself distraced. If he's hurt you before, you're better off without him. Just remember that you're young and have the rest of your life for a relationship with someone. Sooner or later you'll find someone. Don't rush anything, enjoy being single the best you can. It's hard, I know, but you have to make the best of a tough situation. Just give it time and you'll find yourself thinking about him less and less. Eventually, it will be easier to deal with.
good luck

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Hey there, I can honestly say that it will take time to get over somebody that you really had deep feelings for; everything takes time and process. And everybody has their own way of dealing with these kind of issues. As hearttbeats have mentioned, music can be a cure. Find an artist or song that relates to the kind of situation you are faced with. To some people, just laying down on your bed and listening to a song can really help.

And of course, try to focus your attention on something/somebody other than that particular boy. Find something that you like doing, whether it's hanging out with your friends (which will help you forget about your problems for a while), etc. Hang out with your family and just learn more about each other. Focus on school and see what you can achieve. Any thoughts, opinions, or questions you need to express can be written down in a journal or blogged about. You definitely want to express your emotions instead of bottling it up.

Hope everything is well.
~ Jenn

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If I were you instead of focusing on the things you like about him, focus on the bad things about him (like being late, not caring enough, etc...) and then you'll realize why he wasn't the best choice for you.

Good Luck, Spider

thank you guys for all the help!!

Spider thank you so much for your input, i had never thought about it that way.

The best way to get over someone is to start liking someone else.

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Although it's quite natural for you to oversee the negative aspects of the individual considering you really like him, try to avoid doing that. Think about all of the times where he's made you really angry and whatnot. Do you think you really deserved that? Don't you think that you deserve better treatment? Don't you think you're worth a lot more? I'm not suggesting that you take this and make him out to be this horrible person because he's probably not a truly horrible person. He has hurt you in the past, though, and I think that's really important to think about.

Another suggestion would be to just hang out with your friends. Unfortunately these kinds of things are going to happen as a teenager - your crush moves away, your crush doesn't like you, you get rejected, you're heart broken, etc. Whatever the case is, these kinds of things are truly inevitable throughout your teenage years and we all have to learn how to cope with such experiences. Hang out with your friends and/or participate in something that you really enjoy doing. Those are great ways to take your mind off of this kind of thing and potentially make new friends at the same time.

I hope that everything works out for you. Good luck with everything.

Take care of yourself.